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I am about to be ✨27✨ and I am pregnant with baby #2!

Both of my babies are girls! My oldest just turned 4 in July. I am due November 28th (but being induced early due to health issues). What is anything that will help from going from one child to two?

My oldest is super excited to be a BIG SISTER! But I am having a hard time with explaining to her that baby sister won’t be going with her to bio dad house when she has to go. She brings it up every time she goes to bio dad’s house. She also more often has made comments that myself and my boyfriend (of 2yrs and has been her main father figure for those two years) asking if she will be forgotten once baby is here, these things ONLY get brought up after having visits with bio dad. I keep trying to reassure her that we won’t stop loving her just because we have another baby. She has told us that bio dad’s gf has told her that we won’t love her anymore. Has anyone experienced this or something similar? What should I do?

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We just had girl #2 and our older daughter is 4 also. What helped me a lot was 1) watching the 3 episode arch on Daniel Tiger about him getting a baby sister 2) talking about how a new baby means our love will grow (they talk about this in the episodes too) 3) reading like a million books about a new baby sibling that portray both happy things and hard things and 4) being super realistic with her, like telling her that more of my time may be taken by the baby, and she won’t really be able to play with her at first, etc.
Then, after baby arrived, we let her be the first one to come to the hospital room and hold her sister, and she got to introduce her to everyone, and I tried to be super intentional about giving her 1 on 1 snuggles. There are still going to be hard feelings but I think it’s important to not condemn her for those feelings, but to try to be understanding and accepting that she’s going through a super difficult transition.

Sorry, I’m long-winded and ran out of room haha
But I also think it is important to talk to her dad about supporting her through this transition and not letting others (his gf especially) put thoughts in her head that will only hurt her and make this transition harder.

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