Falling asleep

All day I can’t wait to sleep. Then, after I feed him for the last time before I go to bed, I can’t sleep. I stay awake and worry about everything under the sun and become too sad/ anxious to sleep. Anyone else feel like this? I absolutely hate being the only one awake, I feel all alone. (I know that’s dramatic lol)

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It's me! I was absolutely exhausted all day. Went to bed around 9 pm with my baby and I'm still wide awake at midnight!

Please talk to your doctor about this. This sounds like it could potentially be PPA.

what is PPA?

postpartum anxiety, it's not as talked about as PPD (postpartum depression). Overwhelming fear of something bad happening that affects your normal day to day (like not being able to sleep). Being so overwhelmed that you shutdown or become angered by something small. Etc.

I 100% have that! What helps? My Dr is kind of useless.

I'm so sorry your Dr isn't hearing your concerns. Therapy and/or meds are your options. I've had anxiety my whole life so I knew I'd probably have PPA as well.

I highly suggest letting your partner know how you're feeling too. What your specific triggers are

My husband has made it a point to step in when bubs is inconsolable and I'm looking overwhelmed. He makes sure I have a shower (almost) daily and if not, it's a priority for the next morning. He makes sure I get out of the house, either together or by myself for a bit. These are all things that help me, so your things may be different.

I absolutely relate to this post… I was never diagnosed with PPA but I’m glad someone is speaking out about it!

I had very bad insomnia prior to my pregnancy, and I am a ftm, so for me thats really what it’s been feeling like all over again. I have been managing it pretty well but I do have some rough nights, it does get better with time and with support - just know that you’re absolutely not alone! ❤️

I've struggled with anxiety most of my adult life, so this makes so much sense!

Same. It’s awful. Brain just won’t shut off 😫

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When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

Not drinking

I’m going crazy. Baby born at 2.26kg. Slow to put on weight. This last week hasn’t put on any. Been trying to feed him at night and he’s not interested at all. Fast asleep. During day he will have 5 minute gulps and that’s it. He don’t cry for milk. I’ve got to keep offering to him. I try to offer it every hour but I don’t know what I’m doing. HV said nutrition comes after 5 minutes so I should pump first and then give him. I find it so hard. I tried to pump one boob nothing came. The other abit came. Tried giving him express he’s not interested in that too. Sometimes he will go for a longer a feed but not long at all. He’s 4 months and is currently 5.46kg. I have no family or friend support here and wish I had a cook, cleaner and nanny to help with everything so I can concentrate on the little one. I don’t know what’s wrong with him but I’m loosing it. It doesn’t help that my also stressed generally about my relationship and life circumstances. Any advice that will work. Any comfort you can give. I’m fed up. Is this regression - not feeding. He’s fast fast asleep. I’ve been trying to push the nipple in but that mouth is closed shut. I took some clothes off. Changed his nappy but he’s still asleep. Please help

Sleeping bag

8 week old in sleeping bag for first time as big enough! Do you feed your child in the night whilst in the sleeping bag or taken them out, feed then transfer back to sleeping bag before putting down?

Has anyone died their kids hair a fun color and have any recommendations for kid friendly hair dye that actually works and stays in the hair for a bit? 👀👀👀

She has 3b brown hair and wants kpop demon hunter purple

Leaky nappy help

What nappies are you using to stop leaks?? We use pampers ultra dry size 5, and for the past few nights he has lashed through and we’ve had to completely change him during the night. Last night he leashed through twice!! He sleeps on his front and stays leaks through at the top of his leg where the tabs connect. Didn’t know whether to size up, he has a bit of a belly on him but he’s smack in middle of weight guidance so shouldn’t need too