Newborn won’t sleep in cot/crib

She’s just come out of a lovely warm secure place and likely the crib might be quite cold. It’s all new to her. I have seen others recommend warming the crib with hot water bottle before putting baby in there.
We had the same issue with our boy, and I think it’s pretty common. He’s now much better at 13 days old and sleeping for periods of 3 hours. Just keep going with try to put her down it. Sometimes once they’ve had a little grumble they will settle themselves. Or equally, just enjoy those nee born cuddles with the new born scrunch as it won’t last forever. That’s what I tell myself on rougher nights x

Same as Rochene has said - it’s so traumatic for babies being born. She is comforted by your heart beat, your smell, your voice and touch. My baby is 7 weeks old and she still hasn’t been in her crib. If she wants to be comforted and asleep on her mamas chest and feel safe with that, then that is what we do. Even if it means I don’t get any sleep and I am not rested or settled because you will never get this newborn time back and it flies by so so quickly.
Take in every moment and enjoy her on your chest and wanting your heart beat and you being her safe space because it doesn’t last forever xx

The first couple days are the hardest its such a bog transition for both you and baby, baby wants to he close to you for warmth and comfort as well as feeding and they've got so many things to get used to, the way their body feels outside the cosy womb. It's a lot for the little one try and enjoy the cuddles, it won't last forever and like both above comments say try to enjoy it. Yes it's hard because you're tired but it will pass, they'll get used to their crib. Using a hot water bottle to warm the crib before baby goes in and whenever you take them out to feed helped me a lot and I also used a large muslin that I'd worn around my neck all day to make it smell of me and I tucked it into the mattress securely so the crib is a more familiar place. Some people also suggest using a moses basket or place the basket in the crib to make it a smaller space as the crib will feel so big to baby

You've got this, it's all new and no-one says how this part is, yes they say you won't sleep but that's it and we're never given advice to help this transition before baby arrives. You're doing amazing and I hope these comments help

if only they gave us a manual with top tips and tricks before we left the hospital

@Rochene if only! A crash course on the first few days would be amazing!

As above have said, it is called the fourth trimester- can be good to read about it to find all those little things you’re never told and what maybe to expect.
A top that smells of you. Swaddling. Breast milk on pads and warm the cot up, take the top and warmer out once baby is in the cot :) they just want to be close

Mine was the same, he was so fussy in it the first night. I ended up overdressing him in a vest, onesie and a 2.5 tog swaddle bag, it was more than he needed but he was much more comfortable at hospital temperatures. One of my friends had the same problem and her little one didn’t want to be put down so she overlayered him and put a thin hat on him too as he had it on the whole time in the hospital.

We had similar, we both took it in turns for a week of having her on our chest (loved daddy's heartbeat) and being awake before it took its toll on us and I said we need to be persistent at putting her in her cot.

It was a tiring few nights of her calling us, us picking her up, reassuring her back to sleep, putting her back down, she stayed settled for a little, and repeat 😴.

We found she loved her head being stroked, talking softly to her so she knew we were still there and leaving a hand on her tummy for a little before leaving. I also read online that when placing baby into cot, place: bum, back, and head last as otherwise if you do head first it feels like they are falling. This phase will pass, all the best x

Same challenge, last night I had some success with letting him fall asleep for 20mins in my arms first, to let sleep get deep enough. Then place down very slowly, bum, back then head leaving hands around head and then on tummy for ages so he doesn’t feel like you’ve left. Compared to the night before it was a dream (still hard work) but we actually got some sleep which was amazing.

We find going for a walk is helpful - baby sleeps in carry cot and might get an extra hour when home of her in it so some hands free time

Have you tried swaddling them? Even just in a big muslin-my wee one was exactly the same and swaddling helped!

Unfortunately nothing has helped, baby just won’t go down where she has to lay on her back, she just wants to be held. Let my OH have 4 hours sleep whilst I dealt with her, he took over and had let her cry for the last hour so I haven’t been able to sleep.
Feel like such a failure and him picking arguments with me over it isn’t helping.
Am I the only person who feels useless all the time?

You’ll get there incognito, def recommend trying some different sleep options like swaddles etc. You’re doing amazingly just keep at it 🙏