If you have a boobie obsessed contact napper who is about to start nursery - this is my top tip (worked for my baby this week!)

So my baby is as described above. I was so nervous about him starting nursery and just didn't know how they'd settle him and get him to sleep etc. He had 3 settling in sessions this week and they were an absolute roller coaster. Thursday he was there 2 hours and was sad, crying, just wanted to be held and didn't want to play or anything. We were trialling a full day Friday and I didn't have high hopes BUT I sent in a muslin that I had used the day before and worn in my bra that night and his keyworker said it was like magic. It calmed him down, he slept with it and in all the photos they uploaded, it was always nearby whether he was eating or playing and he ended up having an amazing day, lots of smiles and giggles, played with the other babies and lasted the full day which I just didn't think would happen. Just thought I'd share for any other nervous mummy's in case this works for you too

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Thank you! My LB is starting in a couple of weeks and I’ve been worried about how he’ll settle without the boob. I’ll give that’s a go😊x

@Veronica I always wear one tucked into my bra whilst feeding as he's super nosey and pulls away a lot and my milk flow is fast so the cloths get soaked in milk! Then wore it in my bra at night too to soak up my scent and any leakages 😂 and to be honest, I could hardly tell it was there! x

@Veronica You're welcome! It totally transformed how he coped there and they've asked me to send one every day until he's fully settled and relying on it less. The staff even wore it over their shoulder whilst carrying him or if he was sitting on their knee just to keep the scent and familiarity nearby and they were amazed at how well it worked so I hope it helps other babies too! x

I'm not a breast feeding mum, but this post was so lovely to read! I'm so glad bub enjoyed it, and I just shows just how much they need and miss us ❤️

@Rita Aww thank you! I know, I'll be honest, I burst into tears when I saw the photos of him sleeping with it and it being tucked into his high chair while he ate. I thought wow, he feels so much calmer and happier just being able to smell me and our horrible milky smell haha x

Awwh it's making me emotional just hearing this lol! If only they knew how much we love them and would never leave them if we could help it! X

@Rita I know. My heart was breaking when he was so sad being there and I just needed him to know exactly that!

@Veronica I know, I was actually surprised too. They really are amazing. He had 2 naps, 1 was 40 mins in a cot and 1 was a 90 min contact nap - because they felt he needed it! I'm so happy that he's being cared for so lovingly already x

Awww lovely post! What nursery is that!? They sound amazing!
Probably nowhere near me lol

Thank you I’m in the same boat, this is a good tip. Will try it

@Nikki It's in Leeds so unfortunately not nearby. I had a little look at your profile as I was going to message with more info if you were close by!

I’m so glad you said you feed with a muslin. I’ve always had to breastfeed by tucking one in my bra due to fast flow & an easily distracted baby & people look at me like I’m mad 🤣
I’ll deffo be giving him one to take to nursery ❤️❤️❤️

@Abbie I'm glad it's not just me! I'm always amazed when I see a breastfeeding mummy just discreetly let baby latch on 😂 just isn't possible for us! x

I’m always so jealous of them 😂 if I just fed him on the go, we’d both be milk stained for the day 😂
I’ve even found myself staring in the past 😳 because I’m so in awe of it, then I feel AWFUL for it 🙈🙈🙈

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