Overwhelmed

I'm really tired and feeling overwhelmed so I just have to share this situation with someone... I have a two month old baby at home and I can't remember the last time I really took care of myself, I don't remember the last time I got my hair done or makeup done. However, my husband begged me for a week to book him in for a haircut with my hairdresser. I booked him in and today he went to get a haircut and wanted me to go with him. I wanted to take care of myself first and at least style my hair, but I noticed that I simply don’t have enough time to do it (I’m already ashamed of my appearance :/ ) and I told my husband about it and he called me lazy and said that I had absolutely all the time on the planet to style my hair etc, he was offended that I didn’t go with him. I feel very angry, at least because he called me lazy…

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Sounds like it’s really personal and you need to communicate your concerns with your husband. Let him know how you feel so he can better understand you.

you’re right, I wrote this out of emotion

I would’ve cancelled his appointment😂

You aren't lazy, caring for a baby, even a child is hard work and it's hard to make time for yourself and your own self care. Take time to talk with your husband so he understands how you feel and hopefully his attitude towards you will change. Try and do some form of self care while the baby naps. If they struggle with napping or u have other things to do ask your husband to have them from time to time, there will be a way round it and it does get easier ❤️

thank you all for your support, it really helped me get off negative emotions🙏

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