One tired mama!

I love my daughter so much, she’s my absolute world, but I’m really starting to hate being mum.

Im mentally and physically exhausted. Since she’s been born I’ve not had any time where it’s just me, doing whatever I want to do to make me feel good. I do everything for her. Sort her meals & bottles, wash the bottles, make sure she’s clean, her clothes, nap time, up through the night etc. as well as majority of the housework. I’m drained.

From this I’ve started to hate playing with her, I dread putting her down for a nap incase she fights it, everything I once loved is now feeling like a chore.

No matter how many times I tell my partner or how many times he hears/sees me struggle, he never helps out more, it’s still me doing everything while I get to watch our daughter smile and laugh with her daddy who’s sat their playing with her 😭

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It’s hard but it gets better I have a 10 month old and a 3 year old baby stage in general is a chore but once the wee one gets on the feet and is off bottles you will feel such a weight lifted off ur shoulder ur doing brilliant💕 even if there are any grandparents/siblings etc to help out with taking her a few hours every so often I don’t know what I’d of done without them

I feel exactly the same. The constant fighting naps, washing, cleaning, making food for him to just throw on the floor, the constant trying to climb on me and not play with any of his toys. And don’t get me started on his separation anxiety, like he literally screams the house down if I leave for a second. I find I’m like a zombie and just following the motions coz I have to.

I’m really not sure how people say they enjoyed the baby stage, but I clearly have a clingy, needy baby and every day is a struggle.

No advice but I hope it gets better!

I understand how you feel, I have days like this but they are very dependent on how my lo is doing (at the moment he's very grumpy and whinging alot which I find very draining) and I also dread every naptime because he kicks off so much it's exhausting. I can't wait for him to be able to communicate his needs to me instead of whinging about everything I try and do with him 😅 My partner is amazing and I still feel exhausted. On bad days I'm really looking forward to going back to work but on good days I know I feel the opposite. Maternity leave has been a bit of a rollercoaster ride. As Jacqueline said about the weight coming off with certain milestones, I'm really looking forward to getting rid of bottle washing!!!

There's no shame in not enjoying being a mom all the time. I will admit sometimes I wonder why I thought I could do it! Social media shows happy mom's and happy babies but it's only a snippet of a day. I think some of us underestimated how hard and draining it would be but I'm hoping in time it will get easier 😂 I will pray for us😂😂😂

If you are struggling and think you may have postnatal depression/anxiety there is help out there, again no shame! We are all human and are trying our best ❤️

Sounds like burn out. I had it with my first, but never have had it with the other 3.

So I always tell my friends and family, I’m happy to babysit so you can have a couple hours to do some self care.

Do you have anyone in your life that can do that?

For those that don’t I’m tempted to open up a drop in day care so they can drop off for 1-2hrs and get a break. 😅 seems the ones that need it never have the option.

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Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Car issues

Idk if I’m in the wrong. I have a full time job. My husband takes care of the kids while I worked. Today was the day I was supposed to get us a car. But I couldn’t cause of the down payment. So now he’s texting me saying I’m wasting his day to be alone at Walmart so he can spend his tax return. I really want to say go ahead. Leave. Leave the kids and me alone. While you go out and spend money. While your at go ahead and buy urself your drugs and a bitch to go fuck.

Lucky I’m even thinking about him about the car situation if not I would’ve been buying me and the kids a car small enough for us!

Nursery lunches?

My daughter is nearly 10 months old and starting nursery next month. I want to send my daughter in with lunches so I know shes eating healthy meals but I'm honestly so lost as to what to put in her little bento lunch box that will keep till lunch time and doesnt need reheating. Ive been doing loads of baby led weaning at home, but I tend to make it fresh or pull stuff from the freezer I've previously made and defrost and reheat.
Could you show me some of the lunches you've been giving your baby? Or have you been been letting the nursery deal with the food?

THIS DUMB 🍑 MF

LET ME BREAK IT DOWN 🤣🤣

THIS MAN DRIVES AN ELECTRIC CAR WHERE HE CAN PLUG HIMSELF IN (NORMALLY DOES TO DO DOORDASH ETC)
AND IT HAD A SPOT TO WIRELESSLY CHARGE
SOME HOW WITH 4 HOURS OF WORKING HE DIDN'T EVEN MAKE 20 BUCKS TO WASH CLOTHS ANOTHER RED FLAG

TWO NIGHTS AGO
HE CLAIMS TO GO OUT TO WORK. HANGS UP ON ME MID CONVERSATION 👀👀

4 HOURS PAST I'M GETTING SLEEPY STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM
IT'S LIKE 1:30AM I TEXT HIM NIGHT I'M MAD CONFUSED ALMOST AN HOUR LATER I ANT HEARD FROM HIM SO I CHECK MY TEXT.
THE SHIT SAYS "PHONE OFFLINE" AND SHOWS THE TIME FRAME MY TEXT DIDN'T SEND
SO I START CALLING TO CONFIRM CAUSE I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM. HE'S BEEN IN 2 CAR ACCIDENTS 👀 NEITHER HIS FAULT

SO I GET FRANTIC MY GUY

3:14 ROLLS AROUND I CALL AGAIN SURPRISE HE PICKS UP.
CLAIMS HIS PHONE DIED WHILE HE'S HANGING OUT AND HAVING A VERY "GOOD" CONVERSATION. HE WON'T TELL ME WHERE HE'S AT OR WHO WITH. MIND YOU THIS MAN CHEATED ON ME WHILE I WAS 33 WEEKS PREGNANT.

SO AT THIS POINT I'M PISSED OFF AND I TELL HIM I'M HANGING UP CAUSE I LOOK STUPID BEING WORRIED.

HE TURNS AROUND WHILE NOT BEING AROUND THIS CHICK AND FINALLY TELLS ME ALL THE DETAILS.

BTW YES WE MIGHT BE POLY BUT HE'S POSTED HIMSELF AS SOLO POLY WHILE LIVING WITH ME!! HE THINKS I'M. STUPID WITH ALSO THIS SNEAKY SHIT.

IF I WAS TO DO WHAT HE'S DOING HE'D LOOSE IT.
BUT I'M ABOUT TO GO OUTSIDE!! CAUSE YOU PLAYING IN MY FACE

Activities with baby

I’m so tired of not finding enough things to do with my 10 month old baby boy. What do you guys do to keep them engaged. I’m not giving him any screen time actually he’s not interested either in watching tv.
Any ideas and tips what to do with them I’m so tired 😣