MIL and Weaning

So I live in the UK with my partner and we are getting married in October where my MIL lives and she is very excited to see her grandson again which is understandable :) BUT every time I speak to her she keeps going on about giving him food and " he'll be ready for food, can't wait to give him food and put rice in his milk etc"
He turns 6 months the week before we return to the UK.I know she will try to give him solids but I don't want her to, I want to be the first one to start weaning him and i want to do it in the comfort of my own home.

I want to tell her to back off in a nice way before i fly out there... how can I do this? She sends me posts about solids and says every time we have a call... its starting to annoy me.

Thanks for your comments in advance x

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The main thing to address is the rice in milk thing. This is a really old generational thing, you should definitely tell her that you won’t be adding anything to his milk. Just be honest with her, say you’d rather wait for the proper signs that he is ready and would rather do it at home once you return so you haven’t got to worry about it while you’re away.

Have a chat with your partner and see what he says.
Definitely stick to your guns and politely but sternly say no. I’ve had to and I never get stern with my in laws. But they’ve been trying to get my son to taste foods since he was 3 months old.
He’s 5 months on 10th and I’ve had to start weaning him now due his reflux (health visitor advice). I wanted to wait but couldn’t. They still rule me up with saying what I should and shouldn’t do. Apart from being stern I just smile and say thanks and don’t do it.
But defo need to be stern if your away or not let your baby out of your sight x

Thank you and Ill try to just tell her that we don't want to give solids until he's ready like you said... it's weird my mum doesn't ever push me to do anything she will advise if i ask but not push or pressure.

I told my partner that I don't want to do it until we get back from abroad and he said OK but he will not tell his mother anything.

this made me lol since 3 months old ha I feel like my MIL has been saying it since then too... it's so annoying..

There is one day where we are going on a 4 hr cruise and i was thinking she could look after him, she has already mentioned it but I actually don't want her too as I know she will try to give him something. I need to tell her from now as we have a month to go before we fly out 🙏🏾

I saw a post almost identical to this and the woman made up a story and told her MIL that there was a lot of food allergies on her side of the family so they were going to wait until they were back home just in case baby had a reaction and needed hospital or anything 😅

Tell her no. You're the mother and you'll make that decision. That's not rude it's fact. It's your child not hers. I wouldn't leave baby with her at all unsupervised xx

this is amazing 😂 wish I could have used this but my fiancé would just grass me up 🙈

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