Baby Beaman

Just recently got our positive and can't decide on a name. We won't be finding out the sex of the baby. Pretty sure we have a boy name but struggling with one for a girl.

List of names the husband and I both like below:

Ava
Aria
Antonina (Nina)*
Belle
Brynlee
Eleanor
Ellie/Ella
Evelyn
Hadlee
Hope
Lena/Leana/Liana
Maya
Madeline
Raelynn
Skyla
Violet*

Boy names in case anyone wants to give input on those too:

BRONIC(K) ALEXANDER
Adrian
Alek
Aron
Atlas
Declan
Elias
Felix
GARRIT
Graysen
Hayden
Kohen
Karson
Nathaniel
Rowan
Ryder
Sawyer
Sterling
Weston
Walker

Starred/capitalized names are ones I really like.

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Stubborn husband

Hi! I’m a new mum to a 5 week old baby boy and there is zero routine!
My husband is so good at helping me despite being at work full time. He still does at-least 50% of the housework and cooking and gets up once in the night to feed the baby.
I do the other 50% and then look after the baby during the day and do all bar the 1 night feed.
Whenever I get overwhelmed my husband steps in and will take the baby - however, whenever he’s clearly overwhelmed he will not give me the baby!
Last night for example, the baby woke up at 4:30, my husband got him back to sleep, 35 mins later he woke up, my husband insisted it was his turn so went to put him back to bed, he got him back to sleep at 6, put the baby back in bed and he started to wake up straight away - each time he came back in the room I could just tell he was getting more stressed out but he would not take my offer to swap, despite the fact he needed to be up and getting ready for work by 7:30 and had been up settling him for over 2 hours.
I think he just wants to do an amazing job, which is lovely, but how do i make sure he’s willing to accept my help? Did anyone else’s husband/partner react to having a newborn like this?
He massively struggles with change and has dealt with depression previously so I worry about how having a newborn who is so unpredictable is effecting him.
Tia x

Is there a trick to eating your food without your toddler trying to steal it?

I swear, I’d enjoy hanging out with my toddler more if I wasn’t always starving and waiting for her to have a nap before I can eat in peace 😅 obviously it’d be ideal if I made a lunch we could share, but sometimes life doesn’t go that way! For example, today I had leftover fajitas with spicy wraps. I couldn’t even give her a wrap with some guacamole because the wraps had chili in them. I ended up crouching behind the kitchen counter and shoving one in my mouth so I could cope with the next hour before naptime 😆

Is there an easier way, or is this just my life now?

Advice? Am I overreacting?

My husband and I have been going through a lot lately even before having our baby. And now thinking about it I don’t think we were ever compatible. He’s the kind of person that will stay silent during chaos and I am not like that, I would rather talk it through to solve the issue. We have been having a lot of fights lately. And recently, we had another fight and he called the police on me and I got arrested. (Mind you I had never called the cops on him and never was I willing to.) I was willing to forgive him after I came home then found out that he was playing video games with his friends the day and night of my arrest. I felt hurt and betrayed. He never checked up on me after I got arrested and was cold when I reached out. I asked for a divorce. We have a baby together and I feel like a bad mom because I promised myself that I will raise my baby in a 2 parents household and married. I feel so sad that I am doing this to my baby but at the same time I am even more sad that my husband betrayed me like this. We could’ve solved our differences at home no matter what I did I thought. He takes 2 to have problems and solve. I see no effort, and care from his side. He scares me because he is too quick to call the cops. When I got out and I told him that I didn’t like that and he said he won’t do it again but what hurts the most is when I found out that he was playing video games the night of my arrest I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. Because not only did he never checked up on me when I got arrested and was cold when I reached out but he also showed no empathy. I don’t know what to do. Am I overreacting?? He tried to speak to me but i feel like it’s fake. I am deeply hurt and mad. I kind of wanted to act revengeful towards him for not caring when I was in jail by asking for a divorce. But now thinking about it I don’t even think he cares. Am I losing too for asking for a divorce?? And I am sort of scared to start over too with a baby. Please feel free to tell me anything. I just feel embarrassed and ashamed to tell my close ones.

Starting food

My baby is going to be 6 months on the first of April any tips on how to start weening

Husband things it's only HIS money.

Hello. I have one question. I am SAHM and my husband works earning around £4000 a month after tax. He gives me £600 every month to cover groceries and household items which normaly cost around £500 or £550. We have two children aged 5 years and 10 months. So nothing much left for my personal spending without me going back to him and asking him for more money, which is most of the time met with lots of questions and me feeling like a child asking a parent for pocket money. Like I need to be scared to buy anything without him judging me. I do not have access to his bank account and therefore to any family funds what we hold. So I am just asking if this is a normal standard situation for SAHMs or should I demand joint access to his accounts and equal right to spend? Obviouly with common sense. Every big purchase would need to be discussed. But me for example wanting to buy new clothes or in need of personal items without me going to him asking for "permission". What should I do? His opinion is that he works and it is his money. So what about me? Am I not doing enough don't deserve to feel like an equal partner? Don't I have any rights? How are you handling finances as SAHM ?

Easter🐣

My little one will be nearly 4 months old on Easter and I’m really stuck on what to do for her for Easter because she won’t be eating chocolate. I want to do will give her something more meaningful and like give her a few things to remember her first Easter but I literally have zero clue on where to start?

And for all the Karens respectfully your comments are not wanted here xo