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I yelled at my depressed husband

My husband has let himself go. He is 400+ pounds as the scale only goes up to 400 and his weight won’t register. All he does is work and sleep and won’t shower or be as hygienic as possible and yes I know he’s depressed. Now while I am an advocate of mental health and understand that we all suffer sometimes I can’t allow him to sit there and be sad while life passes him by if he isn’t doing anything to fix his situation.
I have been tiptoeing and trying to be like talk to me you aren’t really showering what’s going on. Talk to me you don’t wanna spend time with us. Today I lost it, last night his blanket was smelly!! And he was just all cuddled up with it. Husband your blanket smells it needs to be washed I said he said it’s ok so I playfully ripped the blanket off him and got him a new one. Baby you deserve a clean nice blanket what’s going on I asked him nothing I just didn’t notice it was dirty he responded. I was sweet I was kind but no more. This morning he was making breakfast and placed the spatula on the counter instead of on the spoon rest, honestly it’s unsanitary but not a biggie I clean the counters every night but I have told him before not to do that. Well this morning I was done and I started screaming why do you want to make eggs with a dirty spatula why can’t you put it on the spoon rest avoid germs. What’s wrong with you!!?? I yelled. And so he yelled I’m depressed, I’m fat and we’re broke!! Finally he spoke finally. I instantly calmed down and said so what do you want to do about it? And he said nothing. Idk what to do? It’s been 2 months of this. The logical part of me is like ok we’re broke he’s right August has been a horrible month financially we’re a paycheck ti paycheck people and we both got very sick the last 2 weeks of July and got behind so we set out to WORK in august but there were no hours. One week I worked for four hours and was sent home there’s no business. I applied to 2 new jobs both loved me and then said they decided to hire someone else. I’m trying…but he isn’t. That’s why I’m angry you can’t be like I’m depressed we’re broke but not try to fix it. Idk. Am I wrong? What do I do to support him?