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So, me and my husband was having a debate on who had it harder when our baby was born. So he brought it all up how he felt like we were pretty much equal in how tired we both were, the thing is he couldn’t cope with night feeds. He would get up, Bounce whilst making the bottle and put the lights on and get frustrated with our newborn baby, so I said to him when our baby was about 3 days old not to worry & I’ll do them all as I was worried about him being so frustrated. Anyway when our baby was newborn he was feeding every 2.5 hours (my husband was off work for the first 1 month) and it would take an hour to feed him/change him/wind him, & after birth I didn’t sleep even 20 mins for the first 2 weeks of my baby’s life, even before he was born I was awake 2 days prior due to labour! He mentions he was the same amout of tired as me due to the baby disturbing him at feeding times. But as I remember he was catching flies every feed and only did about 1-2 feeds in the day when off work. When he went back to work he didn’t and still doesn’t do even 1🙈

I know it’s silly to debate over these things but I literally did and still do everything for our baby, little appreciation would be nice. & please note I would do it all over again for my little love, this is not me complaining about parenting ♥️

I just think the audacity 🤣🫠 when I was running on nothing.

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I LOVE my partner but when he says this kinda shit I just about lose my mind! No freaking way do they even understand how tired and drained we are. There is absolutely no equivalent. He may be tired, yes. Not discrediting that. But everything that we as women go through and our bodies! We are a million times more run down and tired!!!

I think men are just pansies. I don't know when you look into human history men were supposed to go to war and fight and stuff like that I cannot imagine this now 😂😂 like what a joke. They just whine and whine and something is little uncomfortable they don't want to do it. Little cold and they're dying etc.... Yet women still give birth and do most of the things what was done before. Yes it is probably easier than 200 years ago but still we have it harder than men. 100000% .

The tiredness isn’t the same😭 women go thru way more emotionally & physically draining events whereas men don’t. They may empathise with you but it’s just not the same. Even when we do sleep, it’s like we’re on standby until the next feed or nappy change or cuddle while they actually drift off into a decent sleep. Sorry but the two types of tired just can’t be compared. We barely sleep and still manage to care for our families 😭💕

If men had to go through pregnancy and motherhood, the human race would have died out centuries ago. I'm still pregnant but have woken up at 2 or 3am. every day since the middle of April and mine keeps complaining that he's tired. I want to throttle him sometimes.

this!

We’re yet to have our baby. I’m 16 weeks and for the last month or so I have woken up every two hours for a wee. When I am asleep I’m tossing and turning trying to be comfortable.

Some days he says he’s too tired to do things (for the last two months we’ve worked in a similar job with the same working hours).

And I’m just like ffs, I am literally growing a tiny human, awake constantly at night whilst he doesn’t even stir a slight and yet he’s the one complaining he’s tired.

He’s already said that I’m the one doing the majority of the night feeds from the get go because “he’ll be working”. 🤦🏼‍♀️

I honestly believe men COULDNT do what we do, at this point I don’t know how I’m functioning - 4 month regression but I have no choice if it was the other way round I know my partner would not still be doing house work cooking shopping baby classes etc he would simply say he was too tired but he works long hours so I know I have no choice

These comments just proves all these men are so similar 🫣 women are so strong and men could neverrrr do what we do ♥️ keep going ladies 💪🏼💪🏼💗🫶🏼🫶🏼

My grandfather is strong. My dad is strong. My husband is strong. My grandfather worked looooong hours and multiple jobs to provide for his family. My dad worked long hours at 2 jobs, or doubles in one job, to provide for us, then came home and played with us or took me shopping or took my brother golfing or to sports practice/games. My husband's and my baby isn't born yet, but my husband is searching for a better job to support us so that I can be a stay at home mom, and he's already planning on all the ways he can take care of our baby as well.

I'm saying this to say that no, not all men are the same, and many many women I know - myself included - could never do what a lot of men do for their families either.

Debating on who is the most tired won't solve problems and you won't come to an agreement. Talk about the help you need and ask if there's any way you can help him. Remember that you're on the same team

I agree, not alll men are the same, but have similar traits. My husband, dad and grandad are all strong too. Not saying they’re not.

When you give birth to your beautiful baby and straight after your birth running on adrenaline & do everything for your baby (like we should) then you will see how strong us women really are and how annoying it is when your husband acts like he is the same tired as you.

I agree, debating definitely doesn’t solve anything & we are on the same team. I have a amazing husband & his an amazing dad but the audacity of him acting like we was the same tired when my body was basically broken was frustrating to me.

All the best for the remainder of your pregnancy and I hope you have a healthy birth & baby 🤍

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Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

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