Hi,
I am Co-sleeping with my baby and have done since birth (now 11 months), they sleep in between me and partner and we like the current set up and the closeness however my baby has never slept for more than 2 hours at a time.
I have exclusively breastfed since birth and I would like to continue for another year or so but baby is becoming even more dependent on the boob to sleep and I have had a few nights recently where I just can’t take it as I am so tired.
I have never felt this tired throughout the whole time with Co-sleeping and feeding to sleep and I thought as he got older he might sleep longer stretches but this isn’t happening!!! 😓😓😓 it’s actually going backwards!!
I would give him a big bottle before bed but I cannot pump much… possibly because he feeds so much!! So I don’t have a great milk supply and I need to keep what I have for the days I’m at work and he is looked after by someone else.
He is eating lots of calories in the day now too.
Does anyone have any advice on how to get longer stretches?
We don’t use a dummy and I am not sure I want to introduce now at 11 months either.
He has shown no interest in toys to snuggle either.
My partner can rock him but he often ends up crying more and then I just feed him anyway so we’re all tired whereas before I would just discreetly feed the baby and partner wouldn’t even need to wake up! Lucky man!!
Any help would be appreciated, I love Co-sleeping and I love breastfeeding, I could just really do with a little more than feeding every 2 hours over night now xxxx
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My lb has just turned 1, and we're in the same boat.
Currently co-sleeping as he won't settle otherwise.
I'm still breastfeeding throughout the night, though more like every 3-4 hours. There is no sign of slowing down 😥
I did try supplementing nighttime feeds with formula, hoping the thicker milk would keep him settled for longer. But it didn't work. 🤷🏻♀️

well I’m glad I’m not the only one who’s baby sleeps short stretches! he’s very happy so I guess that’s the main thing!

Sounds exactly like my boy was. 11 months tends to be a really awful time for sleep, it's a developmental leap, but does improve a bit after. My boy woke 8-10 times a night up to a year, then it started to calm down to around 4-6 times. He finally slept through regularly around 23 months - didn't change anything, he was just ready.
One of the things that helped was counting them down when I wanted the feed to stop, we'd practice in the day, feed for a couple of minutes then don't down from 5. He was surprisingly okay with it, and meant he was only awake for a few minutes each time, and therefore so was I!
You've done amazingly to cope this far, I know how hard it is :) x

thank you that’s a good tip, and also again I’m glad to hear other babies don’t like to sleep long stretches at this age!
There’s lots of pressure from people saying they should be sleeping through and in his own cot! it makes me doubt myself sometimes! Even though I think how lucky is my little man snuggling with his parents every night! 🥰
It makes it much easier having him in with us if he’s going to wake so often 🤷♀️ xx

I’m in the same boat… cosleeping with 10 month old since he was 6 month because he wakes up constantly. 9 out of 10’times I have to breastfeed him 🤷🏻♀️ would like to slow down the night feeds and sleep better, but don’t want do any CIO.. and if I don’t give him the boob, he will cry

We didn’t want to do the pacifier either, but now really like it for exactly this reason. Started helping him space out his every hour night feedings by giving him the binky and he’ll go right back to sleep. Occasionally hard to get it past his hands, then pop it in his mouth and he’s right back to sleep. We don’t use it or even show it to him during the day, just for this reason. He doesn’t care about it or demand it during the day either, just nice for comfort at night. Also if he is sleeping on me or snuggling into me he tends to go longer without a comfort feed. Good luck ❤️