(venting) + Pregnancy milestones in the last week:

-started leaking colostrum to the point of needing nipple pads in a nursing bra 24/7

-started peeing a little bit when I sneeze

-more strangers assuming I'm "about to pop" despite being about 20 weeks

-having a wedding to go to this weekend and struggling to find maternity clothes that look nice but not too nice because it's a casual wedding but not too casual because it's still a wedding and now I feel like I picked out one giant lacy purple tablecloth

-my partner has started stealing my pregnancy pillow as he sleeps, and I have to either share it or shove him off. Reason it's starting now is because I'm so wide when I lay on my side, the pillow gets pushed into his side of the bed, then he cuddles up to it.

-Finally had a moment where I just thought "I want my body back." It was fleeting, but I'm sure it will come again. I'm tired of leaking already. My nipples are itchy and uncomfortable and sticky. I have pads on my nipples and in my pants for the sneezing issue, and I keep getting Braxton Hicks, and I'm just uncomfy all the time. (It'll all be worth it. I know. I'm just venting.)

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Pregnant with baby 2

Hi everyone! I gave birth via emergency c section 9 months ago as my baby boy was measuring big, he pooped inside so there was risk of him inhaling it and I wasn’t progressing past 3cm to have a natural birth and now I’m currently 20 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby. I’m having a consultation on Tuesday to talk about birth options and to have any questions answered but I don’t know what to ask. I feel like it would be safer having a c section again but at the same time I don’t want a c section. Does anyone have any question ideas I could ask or any advice/stories of similar situations. Tia

I have a feeling like I might get attacked from this but I’m going to say it anyways. incognito 🥸 GLP1s being mainstream for regular people who are NOT diabetic or morbidly obese is bad for so many reasons 💉💉💉

Side affects, long term dependency, supply shortages and costs, regaining the weight back as soon as you get off them.. all that ASIDE how do people not see just from a zoomed out perspective how crazy it is. I can’t imagine being someone facing food insecurity in an underdeveloped country and watching westerners give themselves daily jabs so they can lose weight while still eating a calorie surplus/ crappy foods. It’s giving hunger games when district 12 Katniss finds out at the party at the capital that people eat and then take a pill to make themselves sick so they can 🤮 and eat some more. These ads running ozempic everywhere are disgusting, and then getting amazing athletes like Serena Williams to push them talking bout “i’ve never been healthier” girl you were an OLYMPIC athlete wym??

Planned c section

Has anyone had a planned c section and been home the same day?

Getting pregnant after c section

When did you get pregnant again after a c section? Our plan was always to have 2 under 2 but that is now out the window because I had an emergency section. I know they say 18 months and we will be sticking to it (as much as I don’t want to) but I’m curious how quickly you got pregnant after your section?

Movements

I’m 28 weeks tomorrow. Yesterday I had loads and loads of movements but today I have only felt small flutters and a couple of kicks throughout the day. I get so confused as some people say they don’t have a pattern but others say they do. We have a Doppler so used it this evening and could hear the heartbeat and then moving but does anyone else get quieter days of movement than others? I am seeing my midwife tomorrow so will check but just find myself getting anxious about it and don’t know when to get checked. I know they encourage it but last time as soon as I got to triage baby started moving loads!

High waist underpants after c section

Any suggestions for good high waist underpants. Please suggest.