Feeling disconnected from pregnancy / prenatal depression

Hi all

I feel like such a bad mother writing this, but has anyone had an intentional pregnancy that they feel either disconnected from or unsure if they want it now?

I came off anti-depressants pre-pregnancy and we got pregnant very quickly. Now that I am pregnant, I’m struggling to come to terms with it and suffering with that “impending sense of doom”.

I think I’m suffering prenatal depression and I know that’s affecting how I feel, but I’m struggling to feel like a mother or picture what my life would actually look like. I feel really selfish thinking about all the things I’ll have to give up and the responsibility when I should see it as such a blessing. I’m not sure if I genuinely don’t feel ready for this or if it’s just coming from prenatal depression.

As a side note, I’ve had five different health professionals telling me different things about whether you can take fluoxetine when pregnant!

Really interested in hearing from any Mummas who experienced / are experiencing this to feel less alone and guilty, and hoping to hear some success stories! Also any advice on which antidepressants you took while pregnant would be fantastic.

Thank you so much ❤️

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I still don’t 100% know how this app works - can you DM me ? Happy to chat about this

Thank you so much! I have DM’d you!

Yes!! Especially with constant nausea, I'm on Sertraline for anxiety and that's safe in pregnancy. Not sure where you're based but Peach Tree Perinatal Wellness saved me.
They have peer support workers at their mums groups, we all talk about this stuff and its a safe space. Have been going now for 4 years and have made amazing friendships. Its not just a mums group, its a whole support system/village. You definitely won't feel shame talking to the mums or peer works as they have most likely experienced the same. They have 3 locations, Springwood, Nundah and Caboolture. Check out what they have to offer like, art class, and yoga as well, all free!

https://peachtree.org.au/

Thanks so much, Philadelphia! The groups I looked at looked like they were for mums - do you know if they offer pregnancy support too?

Absolutely! You can definitely attend now. Its perinatal, so from pregnancy to the child is 5 years old. I think they have special groups just for pregnancy and once a month in Caboolture they have a parenting after loss group too.
I attend Nundah sometimes on Tuesday or Wednesdays, lovely group. Hopefully can meet you

But you can attend all the groups being pregnant

Will message you Tara!

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