How we getting stuff done with unsettled babies?

I use a carrier on days mines like that. It’s hard though. I also always have snacks in the fridge that require no preparation. Maybe make some sandwiches when you get a minute and you can just grab one.
Getting dressed and showering I tend to just let him cry. But so I can see him.
It’s okay to put them down when they’re crying and leave them for a bit. Just to take a breather in another room, to eat a sandwich, to go to the loo. But you got this 🫶🫶🫶🫶

great tips, thank you ❤️

doesn't necessarily have to be me, can be anyone holding him, but now my partner's back at work it is just me.

He was fine in the moses basket and his crib until the last few days!

That's a good idea with the sensory videos.

He's almost 3 weeks.

It's the not being able to eat and running out of water and not being able to grab another bottle I'm really struggling with. I'm finding breastfeeding makes me so hungry and thirsty and I can't get him off long enough to feed and drink myself at the moment!

It is really hard, but you are not alone.
My lg is really demanding my constant attention atm too but I am afraid that I do just leave her to cry for a bit. I know that she is safe as she is in her crib, but like you, I am just desperately hungry and thirsty all the time.
Also with the heat like this I need to shower just to feel slightly human again.

I had a colicky koala baby and with hindsight I wish I got a good wrap/sling/carrier.

I struggled for way too long.

Swaddling helped me get him down for short periods... but definitely rope in some help if you can so you can "get ahead" ie food prep. Xx

I second having snacks that you can grab and eat without needing to put things together. Showering and brushing teeth.. I'm still working that one out 🫠

I just wake up early and do my stuff like shower and brushing teeth because for me it's a must! And then I ll also have another shower in the evening when my baby is in the deep sleep, I'm talking about 5min shower nothing more, just to wash my body and feel fresh. Also eating with new born is always been difficult so you aren't alone, I just eat what I can mostly it has been cold food and snacks, nothing solid or healthy at the minute... but it will happen because new born stage goes by very quick so hang in there as long as you eat something and keep hydrated thats what matters! With this heat just keep baby with less clothes and have fan on they also feel warm and that's why they can be fussy

mine's hating blankets 😅 I tried a t shirt but it's done nothing!

I do have a sling which I bought for that reason but I haven't figured it out yet! Every time I try and do it I get it wrong.

I don't really have anyone that come round and help in that way to be honest.

We've been doing great with the breastfeeding but it's become really challenging for me with the cluster feeding. With me feeding on demand I'm struggling with how it doesn't revolve around it 😕

it's so difficult isn't it! The heat is making it so much worse, it's making him aggy and I'm getting unbearably hot with him on me all the time!

I have a sling but haven't figured it out yet. Every time I try to use it I get it wrong.

He was setting well in his swaddle sleep bag but he's been getting too hot in it the last few days!

My partner's mum made me a big dish of pasta but it's genuinely a struggle to even find the time between feeds to eat it xx

definitely need to get more snacks in. It's such a struggle!

I feel like I got a false sense of comfort as previously he was settling fine in the moses basket or his crib and I would eat, wash etc then but that's all gone up in the air the last few days!

definitely need to get more snacks I can grab in. I'm stocked up on lucozade though!

I have a sling but can't figure it out. Every time I try it I get it wrong.

I'm already getting up early but I'm not getting a big enough chunk of time to get everything in one go before he needs fed again.

Trying to make sure my water bottle is always filled up!

He's only in a vest or nappy and we're keeping the rooms as cool as possible. The bedroom could definitely be cooler but the living room is quite cool and he just won't settle in there anymore unless he's on someone.

I tried with a doll before baby was here and it was fine! Don't know why I'm struggling so much with it with baby!

if you have a sling library near you they will be able to help fit it or find a better alternative. Xx

I've not had any calm moments today, he's cried almost all day. The struggle is real!

I don't think we have one but I'll check! Xx

this is the one I have https://moomly.uk/product/moomkids-knotless-sling/

https://www.familiesonline.co.uk/local/north-cumbria/listing/carlisle-sling-library

https://koalaslings.co.uk/pages/where-are-the-sling-meets-and-sling-library

I'm feeling exactly the same. Yesterday I was struggling so much. I quickly try shower which I attempted twice yesterday. End up feeding her in my towel and dying of thirst
Quickly grab a drink and any quick snacks. And hope for the best 🤣

If I put her down she will only stay asleep for about five min and wakes up and cries. But will sleep for an hour or so of she's on me. And I've ended up with her in my bed for the same reason didn't want to but I just need some sleep! She is four weeks today.


Hopefully they will settle soon 🤞🤞🤞 xx

We had the same happening
A very settled baby and then he became unsettled, period of crying where nothing seems to settle him. I found it really hard to eat as well.
Find time to work out the sling as it worked well for us. It doesn’t everyday but most time it puts him to sleep. Otherwise a dummy for a few minutes to settle him, then a feed, hairdryer sounds (or white sound) and he settles.
It’s so hard and I got worried when this change happened as he would be unsettled breastfeeding too. I went to a breastfeeding support group and they advised me that from 4 weeks until 8 weeks it’s totally normal that baby is more fussy
Try to have always water and snacks where you feed baby
Good luck you’ve got this mama!

ah thank you!! The one I found said it was closed! I'll take a look at these. I've messaged a sling group as well.

yeah done the towel feeding after the shower 😅 I don't think the heat has been helping with them being unsettled!

I know everything is just temporary and a phase but some of these days are so hard when you're in them, even if you know its just a phase! Xx

I've lost patience with the sling now, I end up in tears every time I try to use it. I've messaged a local sling group and asked it they can help though.

See we were told not to use a dummy until he's at least 6 weeks.

The white noise from Ewan the sleep sheep did previously settle him but that isn't having much effect at the moment!

I have a little caddy next to me with water, snacks etc.

Just gotta get through it I guess! Xx

I swore we'd never use one but I second using a dummy...

https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/dummies-and-sids/

we are very close to using a dummy now!

yes I didn’t want to start the dummy so soon as I’m breastfeeding but it really helps to soothe him. Especially sometimes I feel he just wants to be on the breast for comfort but too tired to suckle. Then the dummy works well.

For white noise, have a look on Spotify they are so many playlists with different sounds and you can see which baby likes best 😊😊

@Rebecca hi my lg has been really unsettled this morning and I have only just got her to sleep-she is 5 weeks old.

The technique that I have just used is not tried and tested more than this once so no guarantees but I wanted to share with you.

Basically, I have made sure she is fed, clean nappy etc then have put her in her pram and asked Alexa to play 50's rock and roll!! I have had a dance whilst pushing the pram and she was asleep almost instantly!! 🤣🤭

Good luck xx

that was my concern with the dummy and breastfeeding but I do think he's often just on the boob for comfort so I think a dummy might work.

Thank you, I will take a look at those playlists!

excellent technique! 😂

I'll give it a go, will try anything at this point! 🤣 xx

these were all my concerns about using a dummy but honestly I'm getting to the end of my tether now and think on balance it's probably best he has one so my mental health doesn't deteroriate and I can continue to care for him

Also remember it's perfectly fine to switch to formula.

Your mental and physical health is important too. Xx

totally agree xx