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So long story short I left my baby daddy and moved 1,800 miles back home at 27ish weeks… I did my 20w anatomy scan, didn’t see his face so they wanted to do another at 24w that I would have to pay $300 out of pocket for. BD refused to help and told me to cancel it if I couldn’t afford it. That being said I’m 30w today and haven’t been to doc since my 20w scan…

I went to JFS and applied for medical, waiting on results for that… I am RH- haven’t gotten rogram shot nor the diabetes tests. Or any others. Is that necessarily bad or a huge no no? Still taking my prenatals, baby moves all day every day.

Other than that being 30w no job is getting back to me, applied for EBT, medical, and WIC, is there anything else I could/should do?

Which that being said…. Is there anything you couldn’t live without in your hospital bag, for you and/or baby postpartum, for baby once home? I all together for baby have, a crib, baby diapers, some toys, and clothes. I don’t have a breast pump, anything postpartum for myself, I don’t have his nursery ready, nor a hospital bag packed because I have nothing to go in it. What would you do, recommend, and go for first. I have support here, more than I did there, but no $$ so… any idea would be great…

Not looking for handouts just ideas recommendations and lists ❤️

FTM to a little boy 🩵

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If once you get medical insurance, you want a breast pump there's a website called aeroflow which is for breast pumps through your insurance and it's free unless you want to upgrade

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ty Ty Ty 😭❤️

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Facebook marketplace is great for things too. You could also try finding a buy nothing group for your area

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I didn’t even think of a group 😭 fb marketplace I keep my eye on, it’s cheaper here, but still… more than I can afford atm.. 😭💔 you’re a doll and I’ll look into a group tyyy!!

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You're welcome! Best of luck to you and congratulations on your little boy!

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Reach out to a ob now. They should be able to put you on a "plan" until your coverage starts that they can submit claims to. Worst case you are out on a payment plan and make $5 payments a month. If you make an effort they can't do anything about it. You should definitely get checked ASAP though to make sure you stay on top of anything you need for baby. Plus a lot of Drs can help with your needs too if you don't have access to supplies

Could also reach out to some local churches if they have some connections/people in the community that could help with PP needs.

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I would say since you haven't had rogam but are rh-, chances are your baby is too. My bestie lost 2 babies cuz of being rh- but didn't have any problems with the last because the baby was also negative. But you should definitely get into an Ob asap. Maybe look into the health dept for free medical care until you can get medicaid or insurance. And I would just Google all things for low income and see what you can get for free, there's so many programs out there. Good luck!

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I have contacted 3 obs near me and 2 have said they can’t do anything till insurance comes through 1 said they won’t take me at all since I’m so far along…

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I got my breastpump at the hospital once I gave birth. They also gave me a lot of postpartum supplies. I didn't end up using the things I bought. Not sure what your hospital provides as all are different. I took a premie and newborn outfit, my son was 6 pounds and didn't fit in the newborn outfit! I also made sure to have a swaddle, pacifier, and then comfy clothes for me, charger, and chapstick. I also took my own blanket because I like it for comfort purposes. I wouldn't stress too much. Luckily the babies usually have what they need at the hospital and I'm sure nurses will help you if you lack anything.

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Since you are currently pregnant your medicaid will go though. Medicaid will back pay 3 months prior to actually receiving the insurance.

I HIGHLY recommend going in. If you have gestational diabetes, it can cause a very large baby and other complications which is why it’s very important to test for it. You shouldn’t have to pay anything initially, they will bill you and you can talk to their billing department about your circumstances.

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My old OB didn’t allowing billing it had to be payed then and there, and the 2 places that said they would accept me was the same way… my best friends mom said the same and I called on speaker and she was so confused and pissed to find out that even though I’m pregnant I’d have to pay OOP then and there without being billed…

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I would call into the wic department in your area. They will help with diapers and basic baby necessities. They also have organizations that will help moms out. With rides or even to have someone help you talk to your ob office about billing.

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I have an appointment on the 12th for WIC 😭❤️

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I’m rh- I think the ro shot is important to prevent our bodies from attacking baby if baby and you blood mixes. Glucose testing in s important too. Definitely seek state support.

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I would just call to different clinics and see if any will just bill without paying out of pocket.

Also, I would like to add. This is my second pregnancy. I literally had a baby last August lol. The hospital HOOKS YOU UP with postpartum care. They give you witch hazel pads, ice packs, mesh underwear, pads, a spray bottle. All sorts of stuff

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