Step Parents

Does anybody step kids calls them mommy? That has been my name for my step daughter since she’s been about 3. Can’t nobody tell her anything different. When she’s at home with her mom and she be on the phone with my baby she stills calls me ma. Would it bother you if your child called step mom mommy?

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Yes it very much so would bother me if my child called his stepmom mommy. I understand that thought it would bother me, it might not bother others. If you have a good/ decent relationship with her mom maybe you should ask her if it bothers her, and if it does try to explain to your step daughter.

I absolutely agree that her being a step mom does not make her any less important in her step daughters life or any less important, and she absolutely should love that child as her own, that’s what you sign up for as a step mom is to love and take care of that child like your own. But it still doesn’t mean that the daughter’s birth mom is comfortable with it. I think the best person to discuss it with is the birth mom and if she isn’t comfortable with her daughter calling her step mom mommy then that should still be okay, otherwise you’re then walking over the birth mom.

her mom and I doesn’t have a relationship due to her lying on my child and having police involved. I don’t trust her and don’t care to but I guess she’s okay with it. My step baby calls me mom in front of her. I think kids knows who genuinely loves them. I treat my step kids like my own. I wouldn’t do anything I don’t do to my own. I baby her buys her clothes and etc. if she was to come over and needed her hair done I will make it happen. If your son had a great stepmom I would appreciate it because some women will hate you child and some will genuinely love him.

that’s exactly how I feel. That’s my baby too I don’t treat her any less than my own kids. She be around us a lot. I think my step baby see the mother in me and she knows I love my kids also. I wish I had a great stepmom growing up. I know can’t nobody break our bond.

that’s the thing I have never ask my step baby to call me mom. I would’ve never done that and when she started it shocked me. I also would never to tell her not too. If she feels comfortable and look at me as a mom I value that. I have been here going on 5 years and I treat her just like I do my own girls. Can’t nobody tell her I am not her mom and if they say who Taja she say my mommy!

It wouldn’t bother me just because I have called my step dad my dad for my whole life and I believe the more parents the merrier lol. I do know that it bothered my biological dad and still does

It wouldn’t bother me if my stepdaughter called me mom but it has never happened lol there was a discussion of what I would like to be called and I left it up to her and she calls me by my name and I’m fine with it. I think it’s important for kids in blended families to choose what to call their bonus parents.

in our community

Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

Appropriate age to go out

I am the kind of person who struggles with being at home all day, not good for my mental health. I have a 1 month old and I am trying to start doing things with her. Like going ti the park, running errands. But people seem surprised and kind of judgy that I am out with the baby at her age. Is this wrong?

Having a bit of a sad day

I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

Roles between a sthm and a working partner?

I started wondering if our arrangement makes any sense. When I was pregnant I saw a cute video of a couple where they sleep seperately, the mom takes care of the baby during the night, the husband wakes up early in the morning takes over so the woman sleeps a bit before he gets to work I suggest this arrangement to my husband and we both liked it. Since I gave birth to my 22 month old boy, we are sleeping separately, I’m taking care of everything. My toddler still wakes up during the night every two hours on average. I wake up in the morning to make his breakfast and drive him to the train station and pick him up later in the day. I clean and cook and take care of my boy, with no appreciation or thank you. If I say I’m tired it turns he’d say what are you doing all day or he’d remind me of how he’s paying for everything. I am emotionally and physically exhausted and I don’t feel this is how a team should work.

Water

My LO is 10 months old and I try and offer him water with meals but he will only take a couple of sips. I’ve tried adding freshly made apple juice to sweeten it a bit, in case this would entice him, but he still refused. I think if it’s not milk, he doesn’t want it, or it’s odd to him.

Any tips?

Teething

Does this look like she’s teething? She’s been so irritable, dribbling SO BAD, like I’m having to change her sleepsuit 3 times a day. Chewing on absolutely everything. She’s 4.5 months old.

Thank you ☺️