Step Parents

Does anybody step kids calls them mommy? That has been my name for my step daughter since she’s been about 3. Can’t nobody tell her anything different. When she’s at home with her mom and she be on the phone with my baby she stills calls me ma. Would it bother you if your child called step mom mommy?

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Yes it very much so would bother me if my child called his stepmom mommy. I understand that thought it would bother me, it might not bother others. If you have a good/ decent relationship with her mom maybe you should ask her if it bothers her, and if it does try to explain to your step daughter.

I absolutely agree that her being a step mom does not make her any less important in her step daughters life or any less important, and she absolutely should love that child as her own, that’s what you sign up for as a step mom is to love and take care of that child like your own. But it still doesn’t mean that the daughter’s birth mom is comfortable with it. I think the best person to discuss it with is the birth mom and if she isn’t comfortable with her daughter calling her step mom mommy then that should still be okay, otherwise you’re then walking over the birth mom.

her mom and I doesn’t have a relationship due to her lying on my child and having police involved. I don’t trust her and don’t care to but I guess she’s okay with it. My step baby calls me mom in front of her. I think kids knows who genuinely loves them. I treat my step kids like my own. I wouldn’t do anything I don’t do to my own. I baby her buys her clothes and etc. if she was to come over and needed her hair done I will make it happen. If your son had a great stepmom I would appreciate it because some women will hate you child and some will genuinely love him.

that’s exactly how I feel. That’s my baby too I don’t treat her any less than my own kids. She be around us a lot. I think my step baby see the mother in me and she knows I love my kids also. I wish I had a great stepmom growing up. I know can’t nobody break our bond.

that’s the thing I have never ask my step baby to call me mom. I would’ve never done that and when she started it shocked me. I also would never to tell her not too. If she feels comfortable and look at me as a mom I value that. I have been here going on 5 years and I treat her just like I do my own girls. Can’t nobody tell her I am not her mom and if they say who Taja she say my mommy!

It wouldn’t bother me just because I have called my step dad my dad for my whole life and I believe the more parents the merrier lol. I do know that it bothered my biological dad and still does

It wouldn’t bother me if my stepdaughter called me mom but it has never happened lol there was a discussion of what I would like to be called and I left it up to her and she calls me by my name and I’m fine with it. I think it’s important for kids in blended families to choose what to call their bonus parents.

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My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

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Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

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My husband works shifts (6am-6pm days or 6pm-6am nights) so when he’s on shift we either get about an hour or 2 before he goes to work or an hour or 2 when we gets home with him.

I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

Thank you ❤️

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