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Hi moms I’m having a situation where I don’t know if I could leave or not we are married have a kid together

I’m married to this girl we have been separated for 2 months and she has a girlfriend I feel like I can’t leave cuz I’m on the lease and if I take my name out then she has to go to her moms and I finally just got a job I have a sister that doesn’t really like me and family who already has a full household and she always threatens me I’m taking the kid or if I leave with my kid she’s going to take me to court I’m honestly scared of court she treats me nasty. And I told her the pot she was using was dirty and to discard she still ate along with my kid I was like dude that’s disgusting and I was trying to throw it away but she was screaming at me and to get the fuck out. I wanna go to court but I’m scared cuz of all the situation and her family is helping me out with babysitting im trying to save up so I can find a daycare. Cuz from the times that my son came bravo he has 2 bruises on his forehead but her sister has 2 kids idk if I’m overthinking and everytime I asked her any questions she just ignores me like I asked her if she needs the car seat cuz she was going to drop off my kid at her sisters and she ignored me like 4 times and says I don’t need to communicate with you.

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Hey, so I've talked to legal aid about this before. It's 100% legal for you to take your kid with you somewhere. She can threaten to call the cops. She can actually call them, and they will not do anything because you are the child's legal parent. That being said, it goes both ways. So, if age were to pick up your child and take them, it would be legal, and the cops wouldn't do anything either. However, you can definitely take her to court and fight for full custody. They may award you both 50/50, though, depending on the scenario.

Sorry if just to add I carried him but she is in the birth certificate as the parent.

Thank you for responding it’s just she goes back and forth being nice and then just treating me like not a person and makes it really difficult

Who is child's mum? Are you both on birth certificate?

We both are yes but I’m the one who carried my baby

Who's egg though? As this would be taken in to account wouldn't it? If she or you are the maternal mother would it go in favour of biological mother?

My egg

I did all the treatments. My egg and the donor. I’ve never thought about that.

I don't think you would have a problem then, not to sound bad in any kind of way here but they wouldn't give custody of baby to dad without a good reason to take from the mother, so I think it will be the same in your case, probably shared custody as she is named on birth certificate, but biologically she has not made the child like mum's egg dad's sperm etc. I would 100% look in to this more before you go down the road of custody battle etc see if you can get some free advice from a lawyer/solicitor...obviously try the easier routes first like offering shared custody and/or set days and times she has child and if she refuses then go the legal way but it can be a long road so any chance you get I would record and screenshot any conversations/messages based on this so she can't say in court that you wasn't civil first by offering shared custody. Best of luck xx

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?