My lb is 3y4months. We have tried to get him on the potty for about a year with no success. He’s always suffered with constipation and when he needs to go will just sit on the floor and pull his knees up. Doesn’t matter where we are, but he’ll find a spot. I’ve tried everything I can possibly think to try and make him understand why the poo won’t come out when he’s sitting on his bum. He screams and fights when we bring the potty out and has massive meltdowns to the point it looks like he stops breathing. He’s petrified of the potty and don’t know why. If we leave nappies off the meltdowns are just as bad. I’ve a 3 month old too which isn’t helping with him screaming all day as his belly is sore. Been sitting here for 2 hours crying as won’t go to bed as needs a poo. Husband works nights to it’s me by myself every night. Health visitor’s say just Lee trying. I need help, but don’t know where to turn….
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I’m guessing you have already been to the doctors about his constipation? Sounds like that needs to be helped before trying anymore potty training. It might be worth trying to cut out certain foods that can make constipation worse and try get him to eat more foods that will make him go (obviously he’s a toddler and I know how hard it is to get them to eat food as it is) I’ve seen a lot of TikTok’s about making smoothies for constipated toddlers that they have 1-2 times a day so might be worth checking those out.
Sounds like because he’s in pain with the constipation that’s why he curls up in a ball similar to when woman have period pains we want to curl up hopefully if you can get the constipation under control then the potty training will follow. Best of luck and keep doing what your doing ❤️

I’d go straight to your doctor. I’m sure I saw this documentary a couple of years ago and they were referred to another health professional that deals with children who have a fear of pooing if I find it I’ll attach it, definitely a channel 4 documentary

🥺💗 Aww poor thing.
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