Baby doesn’t want to eat

Please help! My baby doesn’t want to eat. I give her my expressed breast milk and I can’t tell if she’s spitting it out or throwing it up. She hasn’t been keeping up with eating. Idk what to do! My husband tastes the milk before hand to see if it’s sour or safe and he says it’s fine….

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can you try latching her to nipple? maybe she doesn’t like the bottle you’re using

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Is she a EBF that you're trying to get use to bottles?

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I’ve been exclusively pumping. She uses the Phillips avent bottles and hasn’t had a issue until now. The only way she’ll eat is if I latch her to my breast. But she’ll fall asleep mid way and I’m super worried. 🥺

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Is she not gaining enough weight?

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she’s been gaining enough weight. She’ll usually eat 3 to 4 ounces per feed. The problem is that as of yesterday she doesn’t want to eat out of the bottle and spits it out, I’m not sure if she’s purposely spitting it or if it’s throw up. She’s not eating what she usually eats and will scream crying as if she’s hungry but won’t take the bottle. If I give her my breast she’ll feed for about 15 mins and I’m not sure if that’s enough but sometimes she’ll fall asleep midway

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@Sofia my boy eats for about 5-10min a feed off the breast. We are just now starting at 2 months to want to eat off the second breast. 15 minutes is a perfect amount of time for your baby girl! And she'd stay awake and ask for more if she needs it. I'm not sure if you've tried paced feeding with the bottle but you can try giving her a ounce, burping her, bottle again, burping and holding it at the same angle you'd feed off the breast. She might just prefer the boob as well

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I’m actually experiencing this now with my baby. He will be 2 months on Saturday. I EBF but he had an ear infection so I had to start giving him a bottle 2 times a day and I would put the medicine in them, he was doing fine and now after a week he just plays with the nipple and then spits it out, he thinks it’s funny and will smile but then I’ll latch him on my boob and will be fine. I just keep trying to give him the bottle for now because he does need the medicine. I would say just keep trying, and if she’s falling asleep she’s most likely full, and if not she’ll wake up crying and let you know she’s hungry.

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When she starts to doze off, pat her back, scratch her head, or sway a little. It helps my daughter wake up and continue eating.

Another thing that could work would be to burp her and switch to the other boob.

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I’ll just have to breast feed from now on, my question is should I continue pumping ? So my milk supply doesn’t go down ? Or should I just drop the pumping…..?

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Do you do skin to skin time outside of breastfeeding?? I read that since babies don’t know how to ask for skin to skin sometimes they will want to breastfeed just to be close to you. I’m not sure how true that is but it makes sense 🤷🏼‍♀️

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I guess I mean they can’t ask for it, not they don’t know how lol

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@Sofia as long as you're feeding whenever she asks your supply won't go down. You can still pump and store if you want 😊 it all depends on what you'd like to do. I don't pump at all unless It's a long car ride, then I use my mom cozy so I can give him a bottle if he's hungry on the drive.

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Could be the nipples on the bottle

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Thank you to everyone, I took all advice into consideration and figured out the problem. Turns out while washing the bottles I stuck the cleaning brush through the nipple and tore them 🫠 so the flow was to much for her 🤦🏻‍♀️ thank you to everyone !

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