Postpartum depression?

I don’t even know where to start with how I’m feeling. This is my second baby, he’s 3 weeks old and so so different to my last. He just seems like such an unhappy baby, he barely sleeps and I’m just exhausted.

I remember how I felt about my first born, like completely besotted from day one but I don’t feel that this time I really feel like I’m struggling to bond with him

All I do is cry and I feel like I’m filled with regret and guilt because I know he deserves a better mum I feel like I’m letting everyone down

I don’t even want to post this because I sound like a vile human but I’m really struggling and I really don’t think it’s normal to feel this way 😔

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Hey, chat to your midwife or get a gp appointment. It could totally be the baby blues, you're only three weeks in, or it could be sighs of something else. Being open about exactly how you're feeling is the first step.
I've been put on anti-depressants in the last couple of weeks and it's a really rocky road, but the recovery is well worth it. For me, I have a mental health history so as soon as I had some worrying signs the Midwife suggested getting a prescription and getting on the pills again to help me cope with this initial few months.

Please talk to someone, call the GP.
I had it last time with my twins because I was so tired and had no support. I used to cry, and couldn’t bond with my babies and felt like I was just a woman who gave birth to them but they weren’t actually mine. The worse thing was that I didn’t speak about it worrying I would get judged. I bottled it for years and years.
Sending you big hugs 🫂 you are not alone ♥️

Thank you so much, even in that post I don’t feel like I’ve been completely honest just because I feel ashamed 😢 I know I need to tell someone how I’m feeling but it feels scary incase they’re going to think I’m a bad mum
It feels scary like I don’t even know myself or know my baby
Likes he’s this stranger I’ve just got to keep alive

How do I even start, do I call the gp surgery and say I feel like there’s something wrong?
I have a history of anxiety and I’ve been on medication for it in the past

Thank you again ❤️

Yes ring the GP on Monday morning for a emergency appointment and they will see you right away.

Even if you don't think you're putting it into the right words, telling them exactly what you've shared here will help them understand. I didn't even have to give full details, and if you've got some history then should understand that you know when you're not okay. Sending hugs my dear!

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

AITA

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Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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