Positive sex stories after episiotomy

Has anyone had sex yet after their episiotomy?

It will be 6 weeks tomo and I’ve never had any issues with mine, it healed well and never hurt, just got a gets a bit achy in the healing process sometimes. I am terrified of having sex though even tho I really want to.

I’ll still give it a few weeks but I’m Just looking for some reassurance!

I had haemorrhoids which did cause me a lot of pain and discomfort but they’re pretty much all ok now and I don’t let my husband near that area anyway 😂

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Hi !! I had an episiotomy, I had sex 7 weeks Postpartum and I won’t lie it was not great… But recently tried again 9 weeks PP and it was much better. Make sure you have lots of lube.

You can DM me for more details if you would like too.

It won’t be as bad as you think ! It hurt the first time but what I was imaging was worse

I had a 2nd degree tear too, how long did you wait?

I had an episiotomy cut and I had sex at 5ish week PP and again at 7weeks PP and I’ve felt okay both times, I’ve had a little speck of blood at 5 weeks but it wasn’t painful or anything x

Take it slow and lots of lube. You may feel uncomfortable in the beginning but it’ll pass.

I had sex 6 weeks PP with episiotomy stitching, at the beginning it was just a little..."raw" the friction was starting to put me off but then once we got going, it was absolutely fine! I think it will always take a bit of getting use too again but don't be afraid, just go at your pace! 🥰 xxx

Did anyone also have a forceps delivery? Everything looks so different down there 🫣 10 weeks pp and still too terrified to contemplate sex

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Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

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My LO every feed. Drs don’t seem to think it’s a problem the whole Muslim cloth gets soaked so much I’m using towels now. I’ve tried size O teats he gets really frustrated and still spills it out :(

Dummy

My baby has had a dummy since about 2 weeks old (now 5 months) and over the course of the last month we weaned her off it during the day only for naps and night (which was fine) and then 5 days took it completely away during the day.

The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

Currently typing this as she screams uncontrollably in the car and I cry with her cos I can’t do anything.

Is this normal?

My 12m old is really funny with kids going near him, he’s always been this way, but anytime family’s kids sit next to him or head his way he moans or cries and moves away. He also really observes them and is never really relaxed, always looking over his shoulder. Has anyone experienced this? (He’s starting nursery properly tomorrow so hoping this helps) but is this normal?