Baby crying

I'd say absolutely if baby is 5mo+, baby is happy/ content in themselves all day, normal poops, & no fever lol. I think that's all of them🤣❤️ bless you, sometimes they need to cry. You can also do the 10-15-30 min rule I went by from Supernanny. I played one episode bookmarked, where she's helping a mom put their baby down for the night. Is babies schedule 6am wake-7/8pm bed?? That might help. If baby is under 7-8mo old you can also do 2 naps a day stopping the first at 1 hour seeing how he does then 2nd will be an hour or 3 from that one & long (2-3 hours) some babies benefit from 1 hour nap am & 1 hour nap pm. They are all their own unique hoomans. You got this❤️ you know what's best & they need to know they are safe in their sleep space. He will put himself to sleep eventually & this will go on for 4 nights to 2 weeks total of baby crying at bedtime. Xoxo

he is 3 weeks almost 4 weeks

I don’t know what country you are in I know not everyone gets annual leave, but if you’re partner can take some time off work even a few days you could take shifts over night. Me and my partner sometimes do it where one of us does 9pm- 2am and the other one does 2-7am so we at least get a chunk of sleep, or could take turns taking on a night. I’m not judging at all but a baby this little does need night feeds so I don’t think leaving them for a whole night would be okay personally. Do you have any family that could help out a bit? I definitely napped a lot during the day when my lo was 3 weeks old too x

After 30 min go back in 10 min later, eyes shut, lights off, white noise on. You can start playing white noise around 6-7pm so they get sleepy, lights off/ one night light on in living room. Keeping your eyes shut as much as you can makes them know it's bedtime and we don't talk lol. Shush that baby, the initial lay down you shh shh I love you baby" whatever you're willing to say🤣🫣 2nd time 15 min mark you go in and place your hand on baby making the shush noises but it's brief like 1-3 minutes total. 3rd time 30 min you don't touch baby just shhh, shhh shhh shhh. You can even opt to rock baby until drowsy for the first lay down. Expect 4 visits & baby will go to sleep.

Yes, it would be bad. Your baby still thinks you’re *one* person right now. A brand new baby is quite literally relying on you for everything at this early stage, not the least of which is comfort.

I completely understand where you’re coming from, a crying baby is exhausting! Putting him in his own room may not benefit you though, he can sense when you’re there and will most likely be really unsettled on his own, so you’ll end up waking up to comfort him anyway. He’s brand new and this screaming stage isn’t forever. Do you have a family member or friend that could come round to feed/ change for a few hours in the day so you can catch up?

We put the baby in his own room when he was a week old and he has been in there since. But we would go in and take care of him when he cried. We would change his diaper feed him and rock him back to sleep. This whole process took about an hour. Than he would wake up in 2 hours and we would do it all over again. We made sure to talk in soft quiet voices and not turn on to many lights. We wanted him to know that it is bed time and he went back to sleep quickly most of the time.

That phase is rough but it doesn’t last forever! Before you know it he will be sleeping 5 hours straight and you’ll wake up checking on him. I would try to take turns with your partner or see if someone can come help for a night while you catch up on sleep.

We used a white noise machine and a swaddle. We would also try to dress him appropriately for the temperature we had set in the house. We had the temperate at 69°-71° and he wore footed pajamas with a swaddle. He won’t sleep if he is to hot.

You can also try to talk with a sleep consultant.

I hope all of that helps!

Oh I forgot you can also try the 5 S’s! That worked wonders for us!!

Swaddle
Side
Shush
Sway
Suck

https://youtu.be/hh5ydfhHN5Q?si=GJa2BUupgF3cayvD

If you want my honest opinion. I do think it would be bad. He’s not crying to be difficult he truly needs something even if it’s comfort and putting him to cry by himself in a room far from his only comfort will be even more traumatizing. He is scared. This is alll so new to him. Take turns sleeping some stretches. But I wouldn’t even do this until 5/6 months. They rely on us for literally everything and at this age it’s not behavioral he wants you.

Not judging but absolutely bad. Your baby needs you. Learn the crying ques. Not all crying is the same thing. Has he ate, how much, diaper changed? Gassy? Needs to burp?!
The first month is the hardest. At that stage crying it out would only aid in trauma ( from what I’ve read )

I think it would be bad to do the entire night in his room crying. When we had bad nights, my partner would do 11pm - 3am with the baby while I sleep and then we would swap.

If it’s getting bad it’s okay to put them down crying for a little while to just do basic self care and just have a 10 minute break.

One thing that helped my baby in this stage was sleeping in her smaller Moses basket with a white noise machine x

My personal opinion is no. 3 week old s don't cry for no reason, if you've exhausted everything then they need your love and to be cuddled. Even if it's for hours on end. It won't last forever xx

well even if hold him he is still crying and sorry but we also need sleep to or we can’t be there for him if we pass out

definitely not the whole night we tried white noise it doesn’t work

Hun if he’s crying like that constantly have you sought help from your gp / Health visitor. Take it in turns tonight so you both get a good few hours and then start the process of working out why he’s so upset. It could be his stomach or something like that. You need to ask for help if you guys are struggling xxx

Are you joking? Take it in turns, work it out. Your not the first or the last to be sleep deprived from a new born!

we don’t have any help and I am still trying to find a paediatrician

we have been taking turns but parents also need to put them first if you are passing out from being exhausted how are you going to take care of a new born and did I say I was going to leave him in his room all night and not take care of him this is what’s wrong with the world your baby is important but your own mental health and to get even an hour of sleep is important you shouldn’t be going with out sleep at all or it will kill you we both aren’t getting sleep cause our house is small and can hear baby crying from all over also it’s not good for baby to be crying all day and all night I already got the okay from my midwife to leave him for at least just one hour but nothing more. Also my husband works cash just so we can afford formula because maturity or paternity pay is not enough in today’s economy

the problem is it’s all day and all night which means baby isn’t getting sleep at all and I can’t take a nap unfortunately we don’t have family or friends to help

The baby will cry in their room so you won't sleep any way in the small house so may aswell cuddle them x

you should definitely take your baby to see a doctor. we were told if the baby is crying that much and is inconsolable than we needed to bring our son in to the doctor

we were told by our midwife it’s purple crying but we will be trying a paediatrician walk in clinic but we still have to find a paediatrician doctor cause my family doctor won’t take him on

Constant crying could be a variety of things, but it’s definitely worth taking him to the doctor if it’s constant! He could have tummy issues or possibly an allergy that’s causing him pain x

the doctor said everything is fine and that it’s normal for babies to cry a lot but I can’t even put him down but even if I hold him he is still crying like this is so frustrating

Most pediatrician offices have same day appointments they always leave a few appts for things like this. I would def take him in if you can. My son was crying a lot and found out he had a cow milk/soy allergy and has been a different baby since. This is why I’m not a big fan of the terms “colic” or “purple crying” until everything has been ruled out. But yeah take shifts and turns. Parents need sleep yes but do not need to be sleeping together at the same time right now.

we have gotten no where we went to a paediatric walk in clinic and it was no help apparently it was normal for the baby to be crying all the time

it’s normal for a baby to cry but it’s not normal for them to be inconsolable. babies usually cry because they need something or something is bothering them.

we usually tried to make sure all of our babies needs were met when he cried. at that age it was typically because he was hungry, tired, or needed a diaper change. your baby could be over tired and that is why they are having such a hard time going down to sleep. have you tried putting them in a swing or doing contact sleeping? what are the same windows like currently? at that age the wake windows are about 45 minutes to an hour.

https://takingcarababies.com/1-month-old-sleep-schedule

right now he isn’t sleeping at all we have tried everything

I would try talking with a sleep consultant. I’m sure he’s crying because he’s so tired. Have you tried a car ride?

he does like movement

we are looking for a sleep consultant now