Have your friendships changed?

I’ve noticed that my best friend of ten years, was really there for me in my pregnancy and she’s seen my daughter a couple of times since she’s been born (she’s 3 months old) but she rarely checks in to ask how she is doing (or how I’m doing for that matter) - she doesn’t have children and lives a busy lifestyle, so I do understand we’re not going to be first priority but it is upsetting. I’ve found a couple of my friendships have changed. Has anyone else felt like this? I don’t have a mum, so have relied on friendships as family for the last decade just for context. Do I mention to her I’m upset or just leave it as okie she’s busy etc?

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Yes, unfortunately I have. A close friend who I lived with previously hardly reacted when I told her I was pregnant so I assumed it was envy (she's single and has been for as long as I've known her but wants to be in a relationship and have a family). So I thought given time she'd be kinder and happy for me but that didn't happen. She didn't even say congratulations when my LO was born but did message me to say happy birthday when he was 5 weeks old...
Since my baby hasn't even been acknowledged I will not be in touch with her again

It sounds like your friend is happy for you but just busy. Remember for us our babies are all encompassing but others have their own things which can be all encompassing.
I know when my friends became mums I was so happy for them but realise once I became a mum that I wasn't as supportive as I should have been...it's natural and forgivable

I've been the friend, and now that I have my baby, I understand that I wasn't very fair.

At that point, I didn't understand why since the last trimester, she wouldn't want to make plans or do anything together, and then when her baby was born, she just disappeared.

Now I understand why she didn't want to do anything when she was heavily pregnant and how demanding it is to be a mum.

I wish I would have realised before. Maybe you can speak to her about how busy you are and explain how difficult it is for you to keep up with the relationship. Blame it on you (leave the pride aside) and let her know that you want to still keep the friendship, but it's going to be difficult until the baby gives you more independence. I would have appreciated more information from my friend at that time so I could have understood her better and not being so resentful. That broke our relationship to this day, and I regret it massively.

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