My Lil NICU Stinker

This is baby Ivy, born Sept 17. She was full term and then some but is having some breathing issues. She's living in the NICU for now and it has been really hard for us. We want so badly to interact with her but right now rest is best - she's a pissed off little potato about 16 hours a day but it feels like we only ever catch her when she's fully settled and sleeping.

Does anyone else have some issues with NICU nurses being overly bossy? I feel like they're judging me whenever I go to visit or interact with my baby. It's such a strange and difficult feeling because I know that they're helping her, but I can't help but feel some resentment.

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Ughh we were in the NICU for a month! My baby was full term also but had seizures:(( the NICU at the hospital she was born at was AWFUL the nurses were so mean and rude, thankfully we got transferred to a different NICU that was AMAZING, it was open 23 hrs a day so we could go whenever we wanted! Do what you thinks best! Don't let them make you feel that way it's YOUR baby you have all the right to interact and be there for her! you got this mama it'll be over before you know it

My son was term with breathing issues too!
Yes i had big issues with bossy nurses, nurses checking I was changing a nappy correctly and just generally trying to avoid letting me have any personal time with my baby... I always wanted to say something and it still crosses my mind now but I was so terrified of passing them off if they're looking after my baby.
I know it's shit but you guys will be home and cuddling together before you know it

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