How to get my July 21 baby to like her dad

Hi,

My July 21 daughter is the sweetest little thing with me but honestly won't entertain anything when it comes to her dad unless he's been off work for a week...

He works stupid hours due to his job so doesn't always see her for much/if any of the day which can happen multiple times a week depending on his shifts. I believe this is massively contributing towards her attitude towards him

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I'm looking for any ideas as to how to bridge this as he's getting upset that she basically wants nothing to do with him and I can only imagine how she feels about it.

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Daddy Daughter Date nights just them two doing something special ! 🥰
And I think if you know he’s going to be off on xyz day setting that expectation to her and getting her excited x

we've tried that, if she knows I'm at home she'll literally scream to come home again. She's okay if I'm in work - mostly..

We always tell her when he's home and when he's not as I find our days are more manageable when she knows what the plans are so to speak! X

I kinda get it my son is a mummy’s boy and when we’re both home he’ll always come to me , yet if my mr gets up with him or spends a few hours with him he’s all over him for the rest of the day ! Funny little things aren’t they ! X

Do they have one on one time out the house in the days he is off? Park soft play etc?

I’m having a similar problem with my little boy and when it’s dads turn to out him to bed. Screams blue murder 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ I definitely think he’s better when they have spent more time together.
What’s her favourite activity? Could they both do something on a regular basis where it’s just the two of them. Whether it’s at home or to the park or something.

Fun family things on his day off, park, swimming etc and get him involved. Have you tried just leaving them both alone, leaving the house. My little girl has a meltdown when I leave for work but settles soon afterwards. Distraction is also the key

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Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Shift worker daddies - advice please?

My husband works shifts (6am-6pm days or 6pm-6am nights) so when he’s on shift we either get about an hour or 2 before he goes to work or an hour or 2 when we gets home with him.

I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

Thank you ❤️

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My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.