Need advise!

Hey I need advise I've been seeing a guy for 5 months, things was going great in the beginning but he has a 8 year old son he is a lovely boy, but he goes around to his baby mums everynight after work from 6 till 10 at night, he says his boy won't go to sleep without him.. I recently fell pregnant and due to our situation I choose to terminate I'm overwhelmed with emotions and grief of the loss he has turned cold towards me.. and now after 7 he won't answer messages or calls till the next day.. his phone is heavily passcoded like he has a code for every app.. I'm confused on what to do about this situation I feel really alone.. and unsupported, when I say these things he says he has alot going on in his life.

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I don't think it's wrong at all to feel confused when he isn't acting how he should be in a relationship, but don't ever feel bad about making the best decision for yourself and your future

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm not trying to defend his actions but is there a possibility he is also hurt by the termination? Men process emotions differently then women so it's worth a conversation. Sorry I don't have anything better to say.

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Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.


I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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