Night time sleep

Those of you who have partners, do you take it in turns to look after your little ones at night even though your partner works during the day? I do it throughout the day and night for many many months now and the lack of sleep is finally taking it’s toll on me :(

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Yep we take turns every other time with night feeds. A while back he was just doing one quick feed per night or even zero, but now it’s 2 and baby’s hard to settle after each one 🫠 If he didn’t help I literally wouldn’t sleep. And my full time job (which right now is taking care of baby) is a hell of a lot more tiring than his job.

Our lo now sleeps through but whilst he was still having night feeds I would do them all. But if it was a bad night my partner would take over from about 5.45am so I could catch up on a few hours of sleep. There may have been an odd occasion where our boy was up constantly and on them nights my partner took over from 3am if I had no sleep before.

My husband wakes up at 3:30am, so I'm trying to give him rest as he works 12h shifts. But after work he is doing bath time and I can have a little bit of time for tea alone 😆

My partner takes her for 2 hours sat&sun so I can sleep longer but that’s about it

I do the nights as my husband works and she only settles on my boob…and he doesn’t have those 😅
I have no problem with it, but if she’s having real trouble sleeping he helps me.
Will change a lot once I’m back to work!

My partner has been helping out while our son was going through a sleep regression because it went on for a while but before when he was having night feeds I did them, he does take over on a weekend though so I can have a 'lie in' whatever that means anymore 😂😂 x

We take it in turns

Baby still wakes twice most nights so he does first wake and i do second. He works FT. We alternative weekend mornings of who gets a little lie in

My oh works full time, I do the night feeds as I'm bf and if he wakes I resettle, she offers but I'm on mat leave. Once back at work we'll split it if it isn't for feeds x

I'm back to work but I bf at night, so I'll wake up when it's for a feed, but if he's taking long to resettle (thankfully this is odd for us) or if he wakes just because, partner does it. Alternatively, if he's worked a long shift the day before (chef, so sometimes does full day) I will let him sleep but then he takes baby at 7 when he wakes up and I can either sleep for longer (I teach at uni so my hours are flexible) or just relax in bed while he takes care of him. Before I was back to work, usually I did the nights and him the mornings, or during sleep regressions he'd do the 1am feed so we both could get some sleep

On his days off we take it in turns to have the monitor and do the morning feed x

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I’m going crazy. Baby born at 2.26kg. Slow to put on weight. This last week hasn’t put on any. Been trying to feed him at night and he’s not interested at all. Fast asleep. During day he will have 5 minute gulps and that’s it. He don’t cry for milk. I’ve got to keep offering to him. I try to offer it every hour but I don’t know what I’m doing. HV said nutrition comes after 5 minutes so I should pump first and then give him. I find it so hard. I tried to pump one boob nothing came. The other abit came. Tried giving him express he’s not interested in that too. Sometimes he will go for a longer a feed but not long at all. He’s 4 months and is currently 5.46kg. I have no family or friend support here and wish I had a cook, cleaner and nanny to help with everything so I can concentrate on the little one. I don’t know what’s wrong with him but I’m loosing it. It doesn’t help that my also stressed generally about my relationship and life circumstances. Any advice that will work. Any comfort you can give. I’m fed up. Is this regression - not feeding. He’s fast fast asleep. I’ve been trying to push the nipple in but that mouth is closed shut. I took some clothes off. Changed his nappy but he’s still asleep. Please help

Sleeping bag

8 week old in sleeping bag for first time as big enough! Do you feed your child in the night whilst in the sleeping bag or taken them out, feed then transfer back to sleeping bag before putting down?

i just want someone to talk to😔😔😔😔

when things get hard i have nothing not any support from my partner im convinced he doesn’t even love me anymore but thats another story
I have a 3 yo and a 2yo that are in bed sleeping only just now. I have a 1 yo that’s been sleeping from 8 o’clock to 10 o’clock. I just gave her her milk and she would’ve gone back to sleep if it wasn’t that
I lost her dummy earlier in the day when I went out
so now she won’t go back to sleep and she won’t accept any of the other dummy’s i have!😔😔and it’s 10 o’clock and I’m gonna be up until 3 o’clock with her and when she does want to go to sleep i won’t have any dummy to give her she will accept and she won’t sleep without it i just wanna cry 😔i have nobody to talk to and i feel so alone i get no support from anybody i’m so tired and i don’t feel well to top it off😔

Leaky nappy help

What nappies are you using to stop leaks?? We use pampers ultra dry size 5, and for the past few nights he has lashed through and we’ve had to completely change him during the night. Last night he leashed through twice!! He sleeps on his front and stays leaks through at the top of his leg where the tabs connect. Didn’t know whether to size up, he has a bit of a belly on him but he’s smack in middle of weight guidance so shouldn’t need too