How early is too early for daycare?

My baby girl will be one month tomorrow. I have to go back to work at the end of October or early November and we may have to put her in daycare. I just feel like it’s so young! I at least wanted her to be 6 months before we sent her. I want to be able to stay home with her for that time before we send her so we can bond. Daycares I’ve looked up where we live are all $2200 & up for one month! In my mind I feel like my partner should let me stay home with her and he just pays the bills instead of giving someone else that money. Am I wrong for thinking that way?

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I’m having to put my baby in daycare at 11 weeks old and completely devastated. Where we live daycare’s a little less expensive. And both of us need to work to be able to pay for life in general. Plus, our careers are both just starting and I can’t afford to take years off. I am so so sad to be leaving him in like four weeks. 😔

This is exactly why I’m a stay at home mom. If I was to go back to work I would have been working for free/losing money and it was going to be difficult finding a daycare to work with our schedules because we need somewhere that we could drop her off at between 6-7am. Financially we are going to have a tighter budget but imo it was worth it so I’m not wasting my time with a job for no reward

same. I do need to work but I’m also looking to find a remote job so I can at least work and be home with her. I’m going to cry when I have to leave her I don’t even want anyone else watching her without me 😩

I wish I could be a sahm but it’s not in our card’s financially at the moment. Maybe in the future. Most of the daycares I’ve called are on a waitlist so hopefully I can at least stay home for longer. (I didn’t know I should have been looking for daycares while pregnant)

Yeah I’ve been on a waitlist for the actual daycare I want since like March and I’m not able to get in until February 😭😭 I had to find somewhere else for the 4 months inbetween

I definitely feel you.. I have to go back to work at the end of October and I don’t wanna put my babygirl in daycare. But I have no choice tbh. I wish I could be a SAHM.

I had no idea it would be so long! The quickest one is November/December. But I also wasn’t planning to send her to daycare so I wasn’t even looking at all.

☹️ we’re in the same boat. Fingers crossed for both of us

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So this child is three months old and she isn’t being fed from 10pm till 6/7 am idk if this is normal or safe and it’s been like this since 2 months i believe as she won’t wake her for feeds she goes to the pub drinking most nights with her baby and her baby has already been in hospital with a very low temperature bc she was outside but as soon as she was in a warm car she warmed up and doctors said she was fine she lets cats play with her bouncers toys that go over her and doesn’t strap her in she is cold from what i’ve heard from other family members and they’ve tried to warm her hands and she’s wet herself at my parents and she hasn’t had a spare vest to put on her and i offered her a blanket as she didn’t have one and she declined and she won’t listen to anyone about it she’s already left the baby with my parents for the night to go out drinking and personally i couldn’t leave my three month old because my parents said she just cried and im really unsure whether to report her or not and her house smells of dog wee/poo as she’s never home to look after them and that’s not safe for the baby i understand being lonely but she doesn’t need to go to the pub every night her friends could
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to hers or her she could go to a cafe that has closed doors not sat outside a cold pub and it’s a bit of a rough pub in my opinion

my parents are concerned btw but they say i shouldn’t report her as it’s not fair but i feel how the baby is treated isn’t fair

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Partner works incredibly long hours, how much do they help out?

I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?

Am I wrong ?

My daughter’s 1st birthday was Thursday and nobody wished her a happy birthday from her dads family but his mom watched his story. Should I put my foot down and set boundaries for them to accept accountability or should I just let them stay on that side for as long as they want and not worry about it?