Should my child father be in the delivery room.

no he made his bed he can lay in it

It sounds like he won't be in the baby's life at all especially since it sounds like the only thing he's done so far is made your pregnancy more stressful than it should've been. I honestly wouldn't even consider it if I was you. I'm confused why he would even want to

You need a nice, calm, happy environment for the best labour possible, I don’t think him being there will help achieve this

Think of it this way…if he didn’t even ask would you of even thought of inviting him? If the answers no, then no. Don’t invite anyone you aren’t 100% needing at that moment, being stressed or any mental state that isn’t calm can stall labour so if I was you I wouldn’t. Hope all goes well xx

Nope, it will just stress you out and you do not need that while giving birth. You can invite him after baby comes if you choose to but this dude made his bed and I’d cut him off personally 🤷🏼‍♀️

I wouldn’t let him in the room based on how he’s treated you throughout the pregnancy. Also and more importantly you need a relaxed space during labor, he seems like a person that would bring drama & turmoil. It’s a no for me. Wishing you a safe delivery tomorrow 🤍

Can we go back to the part where your ex boyfriend asked his EXTREMELY pregnant baby mamma to GET HIM BREAKFAST?!? Who’s getting your fucking breakfast? Fuck this guy, for real. No, I don’t think you should allow him in the delivery room. If he’s so desperate to be a part of it he can wait in the waiting room with all the other people who did not support you during your pregnancy. I wouldn’t let this guy near me with a ten foot fucking barge pole, let alone in the delivery room.
Good luck for tomorrow. I hope you have someone with you who will actually be a source of support and not a source of grief and guilt-tripping.

No way! This is probably the most vulnerable and scared time in your life do you actually expect him to support you and care for you? I couldn't, I'd rather do it alone. Do you have anyone else that can be your partner?

Nope nope noooooo. You will need to absolutely focussed ❤️ You will be well looked after and it sounds like there will be no benefit to you having him there. Best of luck, mama x

Don’t let him near you. Mine treated us the same during pregnancy. I let him be around then and regret it every day since

Put yourself first. He made his bed, now he can lie in it! Have a close friend and or family member with you. I hope everything goes well for you 🥰

No. Don't let him in the delivery room after all that. You deserve better and him being there would only stress you out

Personally it’s great he wants to be there and be involved but I’d still say no, birth can be scary and long the last thing you want is any awkwardness or tension during labour. Maybe suggest waiting in the waiting room. Similar boat, my mum and sister were going to be mine instead but they missed it she wasn’t waiting around.

Nope. He can come visit when you feel ready for him to be there. Labour and birth is about you and you feeling comfortable and having people who are positive and supportive. He isn’t neither.

Don’t let him go. You will likely regret it and it could cause you unwanted stress

Birth is not a spectator sport. It is a medical event. He is not entitled to your medical event.

Who ever the person giving birth is comfortable with should be allowed if you aren't comfortable with him being there he shouldn't be there 🤷‍♀️

The only people allowed will be people who advocate for YOU. He doesn't sound like he would and only wants to be there for his own selfish reasons. Should have been more present for the last 9 months my guy.

Honestly tell your nurses that you categorically do not want him there. They will stop him from entering your rooms and get security if need be. Labor and delivery nurses do NOT mess around

No! he’s already showed you he’s not trust worthy why put yourself through that?? this is not the time to see if he is different. Yes its unfortunate but YOUR delivery is not the time to deal with his shenanigans . I hope there’s someone else who can support you

If he makes you uncomfortable, it can lead to actual medical issues. You need support not the other way around.

It's his child, but it's your body. Don't let him in unless you want him there

I would put him on the birth certificate, though. He's still the father

Nooo

As a nurse, whoever is with, you also ends up being your decision maker, unless you have more than one person. You only need people in the room who are going to keep you calm and focused on the task at hand. If you are not in a good place, do not have him in the room.

Labor is a hard process that can get stressful and scary quickly. The last thing you want is someone unsupportive in that space. If he wasn’t around for the pregnancy he doesn’t get to have that privilege of being around you in such a delicate state. Protect you and your baby and say no

No ma’am. Birth is for the mother and baby. Therefore you need to be in a peaceful environment. Will having him there bring peace or will you have to deal with everything you previously felt with, plus him and the ex possibly fighting over the phone while he’s there with you. I wouldn’t do it mama.

No ✨

If you think it would help you to have him there, then yes. Otherwise, nope!

He'll no sis .

If you don't want him there then absolutely not. You need to be focused on 1 job tomorrow and babysitting that man is not it. You don't need that stress. Bring someone who will be there to support you if you want anyone there at all.

he won’t unless it’s going to benefit him in his own way. Or I put a stop to it. And just accept I have to raise my baby alone without him fully.

so true. It plays in my head every moment and with my emotions I am like ugh 😣

thank you so much. 💙

that’s one of many embarrassing things and I wanted to be honest because clearly that upset me to the moon when he asked because as a pregnant lady on leave with no pay and took all my savings to get ready for my baby that was truly the last thing I would have thought he would have asked me. I try not to be upset because of the baby and I just think it’s honestly a hard pill to swallow accepting the fact he really don’t care about our child.

I had no idea or even let that cross my mind. Absolutely not. I would not want that to be the case. Thank you for being awareness of that matter to me 💕

I 100% agree

No!

No way, surround yourself with peace only, not that headache. Maybe he'll then think about how he messed up and learn from it for another time.
Your delivery, you don't owe him that.

Girl if you can have your mom there do it. And he can hit the road. My mom was God's gift during labor. My husband was useless and I could have done without.

I wouldnt have him in there! and don't put him on the birth certificate if you don't want your boy to have your last name because he can tell birth death and marriages he wants his name then there will be a name dispute and its a pain in the ass

I hope everything goes well today and that your ex knows to keep his distance. Do consider carefully the decision not to put his name on the birth certificate as it won’t necessarily limit his paternal rights, but it might make it more difficult to claim child support from this deadbeat, WHICH YOU ABSOLUTELY SHOULD DO. https://www.verywellfamily.com/pros-and-cons-of-listing-dad-on-the-birth-certificate-2997291

if he will add stress to you,dont. just have him wait outside

I don’t think you should have him there! It’s definitely a time for you to have support not stress! Btw I had my mom there, and it was very helpful. The father was not on the birth certificate, and best decision ever. I also gave my daughter my mom’s last name (because hers is nicer than mine, also I didn’t grow up with a dad either). My daughter is now 5 and I love her name and can travel with her as I please 😊.

No. You need support from good people. He’s toxic. Get rid of him!

No.