How do ya'll get ANYTHING DONE

I'm at a loss. I feel like a hostage most days. My 14 month old needs literally undivided attention. I cant even pee without him throwing a fit. I don't do anything but sit on the floor with him ALL day. And half that time he's just whining. Sometimes i think he just doesn't want me. I can't wash a dish without him crying for attention. Don't get me wrong, I do what I gotta do...but it comes at a cost. I'm stressed. My nerves are shot. I've been in childcare my whole life...nannying ...babysitting. I never dealt with a child who wouldn't play independently for at least a little while throughout the day but my son has no interest whatsoever. I have a big playpen, if I even walk away it's a complete meltdown. I understand separation issues but he does great in daycare. He does great at grandma's. I can't wear him, he's 32 lbs. This is more a vent. I know there's no true answer. I'm just spent. Idk what I'm doing wrong. I want to put my head through a wall by the end of the day. He naps great, sleeps through the night most nights. Eats drinks well. Everything is fine otherwise. Mama is just spent. Days that I can, we go to the park and play. He's great. sometimes I think he hates my house. It's small. When I'm couped up like this it's really hard. This CANNOT be my entire winter.

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I wish I had some wisdom, but I feel the exact same way a lot of the time. It really stinks. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way too❤️

I completely understand. My 13 month old can be the same way. Our house is also tiny! Every baby is different but we got a wooden learning tower (all the sides are wood too) and that has really been helping me with productivity. At least for prepping food and doing the dishes she seems to be more content there and my arms get a little break. I know that won’t fix everything but it might help a little in the kitchen?

I have a similar experience to Maggie. There are times when my son is being super clingy but I would say at least half of those times he just wants to see what I’m doing and be a part of it. The learning tower is great for those times. It might take me 10 minutes to wash three dishes but at least I’m washing dishes and my son is “helping”

I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this. My heart goes out to you because at least my 14 month old will play independently IF I put on the tv in the background while she’s in the playpen. If she’s out roaming she will play independently no tv required but I can’t get anything done and watch her at the same time. I feel like I can’t get anything done ever so I can only imagine how you must be feeling. All children all different and some require more hands on attention then others. Try different things and see what works.
Eventually you will figure out a system that works for you but I definitely feel your pain. I can’t get anything done either it seems even with my child is content in the playpen at times But trying different things out helps and sometimes I find ways to make her content ie; Swapping out her toys, giving her snacks to eat while she plays or putting on a bubble machine while she’s playing. Maybe Try some of those out to see if they help any.

My son is like this and we live with my in laws in a very full house but even if there’s someone else in the room he screams the minute I walk away to go to the kitchen or bathroom. Sometimes I just bring him with me and other times I just let him whine because I know I’ll be right back. I don’t have any advice on how to stop or reduce it though

My 13 y old loves watching me clean and cook.

what learning tower did you get?

Baby wearing

@Amanda my son is 32 pounds. Very challenging to baby wear.

I've considered learning tower if I can get one for free. I'm currently laid off searching for work and can't afford a purchase like that right now. Plus it's risky because my kitchen is SUPER narrow. Let's just say everyday I say,"What were these people thinking building this house like this?"

Thanks for posting this. It’s a relief to know someone else can’t get anything done. I feel like I’m a year behind on housework.

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Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Friends with shitty husbands

Does anyone have a close friend with a shittv husband?

My best friend of 14years married her high school sweetheart (minus the sweetheart.) He was always a POS growing up, had an on and off relationship and eventually from what I was told, they sorted their shit out and got married. I moved countries and her and I drifted apart for a while so I didn't know too much about what their relationship was like but assumed all was well since her social media alluded to that.

We both had babies within a year of each other, she had hers first and when she gave birth I found out I was pregnant. I had a rough pregnancy and we weren't in contact much but after my LO was born we spoke a lot. This is when I found out that she was struggling with PPD etc. She opened up about how useless her husband is, I would go as far as to say abusive. She's a SAHM who basically does absolutely evervthing & is being financially abused She's completelv touched out and is about to have a second child in a week.

I absolutelv cannot stand her husband. I hate how he treats her. I hate to hear about him. She posted on social media all the time about how lucky she is to have him as a husband and father to her babies yet cries to me on the phone in private about what really goes on.
I'm at a point now where I want to tell her that I don't want to hear about it anymore. I feel guilty that she's going through this but she's also allowing it to continue in a sense. I'm so emotionally exhausted with her problems and just want to shake her.

How do you/would you navigate this situation?

Car issues

Idk if I’m in the wrong. I have a full time job. My husband takes care of the kids while I worked. Today was the day I was supposed to get us a car. But I couldn’t cause of the down payment. So now he’s texting me saying I’m wasting his day to be alone at Walmart so he can spend his tax return. I really want to say go ahead. Leave. Leave the kids and me alone. While you go out and spend money. While your at go ahead and buy urself your drugs and a bitch to go fuck.

Lucky I’m even thinking about him about the car situation if not I would’ve been buying me and the kids a car small enough for us!

Activities with baby

I’m so tired of not finding enough things to do with my 10 month old baby boy. What do you guys do to keep them engaged. I’m not giving him any screen time actually he’s not interested either in watching tv.
Any ideas and tips what to do with them I’m so tired 😣