Autism? Or fluid in ears? Sorry for long post!

My LB had passed his hearing checks when he was a baby. His 21months old and still doesn't respond to his name unless I shout his name loud. He also doesn't give me eye contact when am speaking to him only when he wants to he will. He is constantly blabbing away in baby language non-stop which is good shows his vocal. My main concern is interaction and eye contact especially when we talk to him. I don't know if this is slow development or sign of autism. However if i put his favourite TV programem on if his in a different room and heres the intro song for Vlad and Nikki (show) he will respond to it and run to watch it. Ive notice he responds straight away to bis TV programmes but ignores ans doesn't give eye contact when we speak to him. But when I say "no" to him he responds to me because he knows his doing something wrong and I don't like it. Moreover his the only child and I put him in front of the TV 24/7 while I work from home. And when I finish work I cook, tidy up and then just chill on my phone don't play with him with hos toys am guilty off. But I take him to his grandparents every 3x a week so he can play and interact with them there's more people at my mums so he always has someone talking to him and playing with him. Also another thing I have noticed is when i try hand feed him he will push it away and would rather play with his food. He also gets angry when his building blocks and if it falls he will throw his blocks/toys out of anger and lay flat on the floor start crying. I'm just worried and concerned if it's autism or toddler or if he has any fluids in his ears that's causing not to give eye contact when I talk to him normally unless I shout or could it be terrible two tantrums? I spoke to HV they said they normally do development screening at 2.5yrs. In the meantime is there anything I can do to help my LO be more interactive and give eye contact?

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