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My baby just won’t settle when she’s with her dad, baby is 11 weeks old, she just screams and cries when he holds her and it’s giving him a complex and causing arguments between us because he gets so stressed and wondering why this keeps happening, does anyone else have this problem, as soon as I get her back she settles 😭

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Leave them to it, he’ll have to find his own rhythm just like we did. I have 3, all go through phases of hating being with me and love dad or hating us both and want someone else or to be put down then it switched again. I’ll generally always be referenced as I am there constantly but dad is the fun one so go to him if they know I’ll say no 😂 but it is a phase and they’ll change randomly. He has to learn his own way to settle, and sometimes babies just don’t settle. We all learn and all find what works for us. My youngest likes looking at the grass 🤷🏻‍♀️ could scream for hours like he’s being tortured and I’ve done everything then he’ll see the grass and just stop

My husband went through that phase of feeling like baby didn't love him like he loves me. I started filming them together (baby has the most loving face staring at daddy), I taught him how I hold him to settle him, tell him about the things I have learned that baby enjoys, etc. He now got the hang of it and even when baby is unsettled and I try to take him, he insists on trying to settle him without my help.

Sometimes you do need to just take a step back and leave them to it, too. Try giving him an item of tour clothing (worn) so the baby can smell you

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