Husband making a comment on my appearance

I don’t think he meant it in the way you’re thinking… you burped didn’t say “excuse me” or “sorry” You laughed instead and he probably doesn’t find that particular behaviour cute or sexy which is probably why he said what he said.

Maybe bring it up to him and find out exactly what he meant by the comment.

Omg your husband would hate me, I burp so loud and I’m not sorry 😂 you need to tell him that the comment hurt and you’re not there to be sexy and cute in your own home. You’re there to relax and be yourself and be happy and comfortable. What a weird comment

I don't get why he even commented it sounds mega weird
And plus if he isn't so happy about burping ... he should never burp himself simple as it's a body function lol if he expects you to hold it in forever as it's unsexy he can too🤣

I have body dysmorphia so can understand weird little comments are upsetting
I just don't even get why he said it
At home you don't have to constantly be cute or sexy it's a place to be relaxed and at peace

The reason why this is extra sensitive to me is because I saw a text he sent to his brother about a girl who comes into his work and how he wishes he was single and he thinks he needs to cheat. This happened a while ago. It’s been a really tough time. But we have managed to work through it.
But when he made that comment today it’s just brought it all back.

Yeah I'd be very insecure and uncomfortable tbh as well because when you have a family your meant to be fully committed but to not just look and make those kinds of comments I already don't Ike your husband even if it was one of those weird jokes between guys I'd be very uncomfortable if my fiancé texted someone that
I can say though it's not you or your body type that's the problem and your feelings are valid he needs a reality check and to maybe watch his word delicacy but he won't know to watch them unless you ask him to be more sensitive about it

If my partner told me that i would have smacked the shit out of him right then and there. But we be having fart and burp competitions all the time so he’s safe for now. One time he opened the window with his butt, poked his butt out, and let out a huge fart cause i wasn’t feeling well at the time and he didn’t want to make it worse for me. We both laughed our asses off.

Yea no I’m a really nice asshole and would of told him “if u want her u can have her i don’t have time for u, good luck and tell her thank you for taking my trash out. I almost forgot that tomorrow was Tuesday 😅.”

What an a hole

Straight out tell him "I'm already uncomfortable with how I look, please be cautious with what you say about my image. It's a sensitive subject right now."

To be fair I wouldn’t find it attractive either. I might have a diff/harsh mindset, (and also not meaning to hurt your feelings) just want to say that the fact u are feeling bad about your body and that u gained excess weight during pregnancy(which makes me think u weren’t really careful with your eating) is not a valid excuse. I think it’s reasonable for a man (and a woman)to want to find their partner attractive and see them taking care of themselves and putting in effort instead of just letting themselves go. We can sit here all day and cry about our insecurities and that ppl don’t find us attractive, smart etc., but that won’t change the fact that it’s our insecurities we are projecting and it’s not a valid excuse to not make an effort to be better. Im saying this baring in mind that a partner also tries to be their best self too and that’s it’s not only one person who tries.
It wouldn’t be reasonable if I was trying for the better but my husband didn’t and still expected me to.

You know you can eat perfectly fine and gain a lot of weight for all sorts of reasons via hormonal and medical reasons some are attached as pregnancy complications..... to your judgement could easily be wrong as most women are very conscious what they put in goes right to their baby
This healthier choices
If you breast feed even that weight is still held in due to bodies like to keep spare stores for breastfeeding

Attractive or not there is no need for an unnecessary judgment comment specially when close enough to be married .

If you read her other comment you would actually tell why she is very emotional over a small comment rather then just focus on how you think she "letting herself go" she might be too tired and making poor food choices ..... like many of us do at the first year of parenthood ..... or again hormones which take over 2 years to settle
He husband making her insecure by talking about wanting to be single and to cheat is the cause obviously

She could be making a tonne of effort but you didn't ask just assume
Says a lot right there with all the assumptions

No one literally no one has to be at their best at all times to have some basic respect

I get all that and obv. it’s hurts ti hear things like that. But I still disagree and see these as excuses. Obviously her husband is treating her poorly but it’s still not an excuse.. why would u let someone dictate how u see urself and let them get so much to you ? To me, it makes sense to want to take care of your body, to be in the best health and looks, cause it shows u respect urself and your partner as well. Everything else is just an excuse. I have hormonal issues but still managed to lose weight and achieve most of my goals. I don’t use my
Hormones and emotions as an excuse or as a pass for anything. If I stuck with my excuses I wouldn’t have gone anywhere. I understand however that putting effort in smth requires a lot of mental work and it’s very hard for the majority to be super consistent and strict with their goals. However anything else is just an excuse and it won’t get you anywhere anyways. That’s what I have learned form my experience so far.

as someone who ate as healthy as I could during pregnancy and still gained an excessive amount of weight this is soooo false and as a woman I can’t even believe you could say this to another woman… I gained over 100 lbs not even trying and my dr could not figure out why. I worked out and I ate healthy and now I have so many insecurities. To have a huge body change and be insecure is not an excuse and maybe her situation isn’t a big deal but she stated why it triggered her. Your telling me if your husband talked about another woman then made a comment like that you wouldn’t be insecure? Yeah you shouldn’t make excuses but like this isn’t an excuse you don’t know if she’s been trying hard to loose weight and just can’t and then that comment triggered something. Your comment was good until you said “which makes me think you weren’t really careful with you eating” from there on was no it.

I hope u know that even tho i don’t know who you are under the incognito, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL REGARDLESS! All shapes matter, all size matters, everything about a woman matters okay! I will be cheering u on to feel better! Don’t forget u are worthy and an absolute queen!

I really don’t appreciate how you have followed up on my post.

I don’t feel like I should have to explain myself to you - but your mindset is so wrong. I was very careful during my pregnancy with the odd cheat day 1x every 2 weeks to keep me going. When my baby came I started personal training when she turned 3 months. Now I go gym 1x a week and spin 2x a week. I am super careful with what I eat. And I am a super active person. If you took time to actually read my comment you would have seen I have body dysmorphia. Something I have suffered from since I was a little girl.
I am breastfeeding , and my husband has opened a new business. So works from 9am - 9pm 6 days a week. I have to do everything for our LG myself. I am also full time at work. And need to do all the cleaning and need to do all the cooking. Everything is on me. So yes once my LG goes to sleep and I finish the cleaning I am not sitting there in a sexy outfit for him.
Yes I have excess weight I believe to be

breastfeeding.
Before you judge other woman. Just stop and think. Not everyone’s body reacts like yours. Not everyone had the same lifestyle or life set as you. Please be more mindful.

thank you girls ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

That’s nothing to do with your appearance ? he’s commenting about how he thinks burping is gross and unattractive. He wasn’t talking about your looks or weight.
Still really douchy and he could of worded it better.

did your doctor check if you had pregnancy diabetes as plenty of healthy stuff then becomes bad it's a little mental

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought it was wrong the extra info from the OP in the above msg helped a lot

This lady hasn't even had her baby yet she is in for a world of change and wow how did that happen feels or I suppose intense exhaustion for being attractive all day
I can't see her replies as I blocked as well she seemed like who would be like talking to a wall with that amount of projection and I needed some sleep just could not go to sleep without saying something

I gained a lot from undiagnosed pregnancy diabetes ant treat I had made it much worse and I held it all on from breastfeeding and I literally and struggling to get the heavier baby weight off as it was my third pregnancy and I literally have almost the same size biceps as my partner (he is lean but still) and I'm like a foot shorter then him so I know I do enough exercise
Hormones suck a lot sometimes

Also hang in there because once my boobs stopped making milk your hormones settle in a couple months and your weight starts balancing out

And all the rest of the pregnancy hair comes out lol 🤣

not sure if your talking about gestational diabetes but they did and I was negative😕 all my tests came back the way they should I didn’t have preeclampsia either so it was very strange… I feel you I feel like a hippo walking next to my bf lol. Idk if you have ever tried intermittent fasting but I’ve been doing that and I’ve shed quiet a few lbs! I actually didn’t even realize she hasn’t had her baby lol idk how she can talk she hasn’t even gone through post partum yet😭😭

Don’t worry girl there’s woman who will uplift here she’s just someone who thinks she’s perfect with everything. I remember when I first got pregnant I made a post about my weight and some girl had to blast me how she’s only 110 lbs and how I’ve gained way to much weight for how far I am like wanna cookie? Lol some people just have no filter and think they know everything about everyone lol you legit went incognito she judged you way to hard off a little white ghost picture and a post that probably only a percent of your relationship😭😭

hmm maybe just all how your hormones work then sadly and yeah that diabetes I couldn't remember how to spell it haha 🤣 it can be missed but not often

Oh I used noom and after a couple months even my appetite has gone down following their methods
And I'm full a lot
But I only started losing weight after my third stopped breastfeeding at a year old and I'm aiming for being very muscular as that's the body shape I like so I have to eat enough calories to gain muscle and well my biceps are about the same strength as my partner's so I'm doing great
Tummy weight is being slow but again hormones
Gets harder each kid you have haha 🤣 but yeah can't really make post partum comments when you haven't been there yet
Some people are pregnancy unicorns for sure but I haven't met one tired mum who just had a baby that doesn't give up exercise for some sleep as they are so tired and ends up eating cheese out the fridge while so tired to try stay awake lol

I had people in the street comment how large I was when I first got pregnant worst bit was some of those people were very big without being pregnant themselves and I was being judged for being big while pregnant I happen to carry extra water and my hormones aren't friendly to me and last one I got pregnancy diabetes too taken me a year but I've lost like nearly 10 kgs and most was after I started weaning in food food with the boob milk
She will notice her boobs change shape as well I swear we don't get told our boobs change lol 🤣 but they feed babies and get stretched etc makes a difference

that’s crazy I feel it my s/o family always had to remind me I was gaining weight when it’s funny because before I was pregnant they would always tell me I look anorexic and that Im starving myself lol. I don’t think we get told any of the negative things that happen with our body 😭😭 I would have never imagined my body to be the way it is rn after only one baby lol 🥲😅

MSG'd you to not over take the post X

People don't warn people enough about pregnancy and the aftermath I told my best friend straight away as she wanted a kid and I already had one (funnily got pregnant again a month after her so was pregnant together) about how rubbish pregnancy is in a lot of parts cute baby flutters are lovely sure but back and rib pain and why is my butt and boobs different shape now etc
But I've done this 3 times now lol 🤣 and I'm old lol I also got told I was too thin and anorexic before I had my second (I just worked out a lot as I like being buff)

I stated in my comment that it obviously hurts to hear these things. I get people have different mindsets and I’m talking from my experience cause I was a person who constantly found excuses and didn’t improve on myself cause I said these exact things to myself. Once my mindset changed I never thought that it’s okay to let my insecurities get int he way of me getting better. I completely understand how hard it is mentally for someone to even put effort in the weight loss game or effort in anything that requires self discipline. But I’ve been there and I believe truly that since I managed to do it (in which I had no belief in before) then anyone who sets their mind in it, can too. So excuses in my mindset are just that. I won’t use them cause they just keep me back. In my comment I just said that that’s the impression I got. I’ve seen people who say “I am careful with my eating” or “I eat around x amount of cals”+ they actually aren’t + make poor food choices without realising.

I didn’t even judge you. I didn’t mean anything bad with my comment. I find your mindset to be wrong u find mine wrong and that’s fine. I’m not trying to convince you to change your mindset or beliefs. I totally understand your struggles and I get how frustrating it must be for you. All I said was that you shouldn’t put the excuses first in cause that just stops you doing the things you want to achieve. That was my whole point. I get you might need a confidence boost but you ate making a post on socials and u can’t expect every response to be what u want to hear. It’s true people might find us unattractive, we gain weight, we lose it gain again, our boy changes, we age etc. that’s how it works, and you can’t always have someone to pat your back and tell you how perfectly you do everything cause that’s just unrealistic. Everyone’s trying to find out how to deal with life and it’s changes u can only try your best or do your worst. It’s ur choice either way.

you are definitely one of those people who hype obese people up and tell them they are perfect how they are while they eat themselves to death.
You all have a bad relationship with realism and you can definitely tell.
I definitely don’t think I’m perfect but I surely judge myself much harder and I don’t let excuses get in the way. I’m being realistic and I don’t pat my own back nor expect anyone else to do so. If you want to live like that that’s your personal
Choice. I didn’t judge anyone really in my comment but u all get triggered with a different opinion and I don’t get what see as so irrational out of what I’m saying really cause it’s pretty clear what point im trying to make but you choose to get triggered over that.

girl no offense but you have no room to talk 1 you can’t even post a pic of you pregnant so why’s that? 2 you haven’t had a baby yet so you don’t even know what post partum is. Your over here acting like you know everything. Yeah sorry I’m a empowering woman and I’m not gonna tell someone they chose to be fat like you wanna tell every woman on this app. Your a toxic person and your trying way to hard to prove it’s her fault she’s bigger lol. Only someone who is insecure would try this hard to bring someone else down you got issues my friend and there’s just some things tou keep to yourself. When you can post an up to date pic of your self right now then you can judge lol but right now your now helping yourself with anything 😭😭😭

and quit saying bigger people eat to much on there free will spend a day with me I basrely eat shit and I’m still bigger and I work out 3-4 times a week wanna explain that? I’m sorry but your a disgusting person and I’ve actually quiet literally never met a person like you and I’m glad I will never have to see you face to face cause I know for a fact you could never say this stuff to someone’s face lol. Do you tell skinny people they starve themselves too? You judge woman and it’s gross