11 years...PCOS...2ND CHILD 😱

Hello ladies!

So, I've had a little miracle happen! My daughter is nearly 11 and I've been trying since she was born for another baby with no luck... until now ❤️

So this is my tiny bean (5.5weeks) whom has a tiny heartbeat!

I'm feeling so blessed & so anxious at the same time 🥹

Also...things have changed alot in the past 10 years, with how hospitals/midwifes support you.

Anyone else feeling a bit left in the dark?

Also...should I be taking folic acid :-)

Thank you ladies and all the best on your journey 🩷🩵

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It’s recommended to take folic acid ! So yes 100%
I know my midwife’s give you vitamins for free.
Well done and congratulations 🥳!

Thank you lovely, Congratulations to you too 🩷🩵

We are in the same boat as you although my daughter has just turned 9!!
The feeling is just surreal!!
Congratulations 🩷🩷🩷

Thank you ❤️❤️

@Kelly Thank you so much, and a huge congratulations to you too 🩷🩵 It's both surreal and amazing! 😍🥰

My son is 12 and I am now 6 weeks, wondering what has changed since my son was a baby?
Iv noticed pregnant women can eat prawns now which was not allowed when I was last pregnant

That’s amazing! So happy for you 😊

🤍C.O.N.G.R.A.T.U.L.A.T.I.O.N.S 🤍

Thank youu 🙏🏻

Thank you 😊 🩷🩵

@Mummabear Also allowed to eat runny eggs now which used to be a no go 🤔 😅 I haven't spoken to a midwife yet & feel really alone haha. The early scan was due to some pain ( emergency scan) and congratulations 🩵🩷

yes absolutely!!! Thankyou!
Have you told your daughter yet or are you waiting? X

I have just registered with the midwife today but the gp has done my blood tests, I have an under active thyroid so struggled also to conceive

@Kelly I told her, I want her to feel apart of everything as this is a huge culture shock after having only my attention all her life haha! She was pi*sed at first...but now comes downstairs with baby names 😍🥰 Have you told your daughter? x

Congrats. I would start taking folic acid.

@Jessie Thank youu! I'm going to start taking them tomorrow xx

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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Hi everyone! I honestly have 0 social queues when it comes to talking to anyone in general. I definitely have a hard time talking to other women and making new friends. I can 100% relate. I just don’t like the idea of texting or meeting up but when I do I’m like “oh this isn’t bad.” Any advice? I also have a hard time getting comfortable and just feeling judged by other women😅 I’m also 19 so maybe making a change in this now will help in the future making mom friends/friends in general. Thanks in advance!

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