Losing my mind

Hey all! Love my sweet girl so much but dang I think she's trying to make me go crazy lol ever since her 4 month regression her sleep has gone downhill now here we are 2 months later and on 2 weeks of screaming when trying to get her down and waking every hour at night. I go back to work soon and honestly don't know how I'm going to survive. She's ebf and I don't believe in cio. Any tips? Anyone else go through this and can tell me there's a light at the end of the tunnel? Thanks for listening mamas 💕

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I have no advice but I’m in the same boat. Currently holding my 6 month old and wishing I was asleep. I am so sleep deprived I’m hardly functioning at all.

hugs to you mama, my little one is attached to my boob right now cause its the only way she will go back down for even a little bit. I knew becoming a mom I'd get way less sleep but I was extremely unprepared for just how sleep deprived I was gonna be

Mine just was too, I can’t even seem to get my baby to lay down for a few minutes sometimes. At most I might get an hour and it seems to be pure luck if she lays down.

I switched to bottles and pumping, which helped us! He would drink more out of a bottle and sometimes I had to use a freezer stash in addition to the freshly pumped milk. Which makes me think that some days he wasn't getting enough and was waking up hungry.

I've had this thought before so might need to give it a try, worth a shot!

Going along with what Lexy said how is your hydration? Maybe your milk supply dipped a little and baby isn't getting enough? By daughter around 6 months had a similar thing happen, she also was nursing less during the day because she was so distracted by playing and I was busy getting things done that she forgot she needed to nurse too so then she would be up all night nursing and because of that and me being severely dehydrated my supply dropped a fair amount too. Once I started drinking roughly 96 oz. A day and encouraging her to rest more frequently during the day she started sleeping 12 hours at night

Yes this... girl it's so hard. My ebf 6mo will accept no bottles ... I'm really hoping that adding in the bits of solids to her diet will help too woth getting enough food to hold her belly overnight longer...

It's since the 4m regression she has been STruGgLiNG!!

I'm pretty good about hydration so not sure that's my problem, I have a 32oz bottle that I refill 4 times a day

ugh I feel for you haha these regressions are the worst but babies are going through a lot just gotta hang in there!

Hi! I’m a single foster mom in the same boat. I just went back to work a few weeks ago and feel like I’m about to lose it. Mine literally wants to be held all night and when I try to put him down, he wakes up within the hour if not sooner. I’m at a complete loss as to what to do.

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Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.