Baby won’t sleep

At this point he’s been up for 4 and a half hours. He’s 4 and a half months. I don’t know what to do and getting more and more desperate. When he doesn’t get his naps he gets very cranky and his night sleep will be completely awful. He’s just wide awake and whining/crying or just staring. I’ve tried everything. I’m not even looking for advice just some comfort because my husband is at work today so it’s just me and I feel like crying and such a failure.

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I feel you. I'm on day 3 so I'm assuming it's the sleep regression. Trying my best to stay positive but it's hard when you're on your own. Just keep reminding yourself it's worth it in the end and your husband will be home before you know it

I also think it’s the regression but he’s been having trouble with napping for about 6 weeks now, so I thought it would come to an end soon. This morning has been the worst yet though!

Oh dear I'm so sorry. Regression tends to last 4 to 6 weeks so hopefully you're coming to the end of it. I really hope things get better for you

I had a similar situation going on, I found out that I wasn’t getting her down for her nap in time with her cues. She’s up an hour and half then down for 40mins-1hr. Touchwood I have been doing this without fail and she’s not whingy and crying like before plus her night sleep has dramatically improved. Downside it’s pretty much nap, wake, feed, nap all day long but it beats hearing her crying inconsolably. You will get through it and you are not alone ❤️

Thank you all ❤️
He finally fell asleep shortly after writing this and is up again after only half an hour. But I’m in a better place now (mainly thanks to your lovely comments and a nice hot shower) and we’ll just try again in an hour and a half for the next nap. I just need to remember that it will get better ☺️

That’s amazing! Well done you, you have so got this 🫶🏼

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I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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