Do I keep going in????? Wtf do I do???

My baby has had a cold the past couple of days, we’ve had 3 sleepless nights which we pushed through! He’s coming out of his cold and suddenly he won’t sleep in his cot (own room) the last 2 nights I’ve been up every half hour! as soon as I pick him up he falls asleep.. he doesn’t take a dummy or have a comforter! At this point, I’m really tempted to just let him cry to sleep (yes I know!) we used to cosleep but we can’t co sleep anymore (it’s just not possible) but I’m so burnt out my husband had to take two days of work because I’ve been up all night sitting in this damn rocking chair begging my child to sleep!

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Omg 😱 I know what your going through because doctors don’t give anything for colds and a lot of parents make the mistake to put the baby in their bed then baby gets comfortable sleeping with their parents and then it really becomes a problem. My best advice is just tough it out a little bit. I know it’s hard. How old is your baby ?

it feels never ending 🥲 he’s 6 months! We actually put him in a swaddle a few nights ago and he had a long stretch but he’s starting to roll over so we can’t keeping doing that & him getting use to it, but I think he likes feeling secure 🫤 & the cold is already making him feel rubbish .. so combined, means sleepless nights for me & I’ve caught he’s cold I’m really struggling because my body feels like it’s shutting down!

I know it’s so difficult but you got this girl because if the baby gets used to sleeping with you guys, it’s gonna be even worse

A lot of sleep trainers will say all rules go out of the window when babies are poorly... he is probably waking up feeling poorly and scared and just wanting to be close to you. Do you have a travel cot or anything so he can at least be in your room or a blow up mattress so you can be in his?
If it's just for the duration that he's poorly he's not going to get used to it. I'm sure there are a lot of other habits you've transitioned out of (swaddles, co sleeping etc) and he's not got dependent on them. I think he just needs you right now.

I know! & I keep telling myself that this is all new to him and I’m his comfort! I think it’s just really hard at the moment because I also have his cold and out of everyone it seems to be hitting me the hardest (maybe combination of the energy used for breastfeeding and lack of sleep)
Unfortunately, sleeping in his room or him in ours is a recipe for disaster 🥲 he’s very sensitive to our smells & sounds and as I’m up coughing, sneezing and just generally being ill most of the night, I don’t think it would do either of us any favour!

I know it's hard but it shouldn't last any more then another week ,when my little one had a cold I got a bucket of hot water and let some of the steam on her face that can help to!he helps with a blocked nose and make sure they not flat on their back because it can make the fluid go to their lungs keep them elevated slightly at night that can be abit more comfortable for them 💕

I sleep trained my boy at 4 months with cry it out but when he’s ill or teething I never let him cry it out when he wakes in the night, even if I’m up for 2 hours going in and out for a week I’ll do it as he needs the comfort from me. It’s good to know why he’s waking and that it won’t last forever. I’m very lucky that he normally sleeps through so don’t mind the occasional bad night.

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Feel like I’m solo parenting

I’m so sick of arguing with my husband over this.

My daughter is 11 weeks old, and my husband works Monday to Friday. I look after her all day every day, and on the weekends and some evenings he goes out cycling. I don’t mind this, he gets extremely ratty and stir crazy if he doesn’t go out, and it drives me mad.

Lately. My daughter’s sleep pattern is all over the place in terms of the second stretch. She tends to go for 6 hours, then has a feed, then either goes for another 4 hours, or starts to fuss at about 5:30 am. (I realise this first stretch is a dream, please believe me I’m not complaining about that.

My husband starts work at 7 am from home, or leaves at 6 am if he’s going into the office.

This means that he comes home, feeds her once while I’m in the shower, while I handle all of the other feeds/ settling her off at night. I rarely go back to sleep after as I’m so wired. He also struggles to sleep once he’s awake, so when she fusses for her night feed, he’s up from around 4 am regardless of feeding her or not.

I see him for around 3 hours a day apart from weekends, and in that time I cook, he does the dishes and cleans the bottles. We then bath/wash LO, he feeds her, then we watch a film or show until her next feed at 9:30 pm.

He has gone up to bed early to try and get more sleep because he feels like he’s exhausted to the point of headaches. (I am too, but it seems like this isn’t as important because I don’t go to work. He acknowledges that it’s hard work looking after her all day, this isn’t the problem). I have stayed downstairs with her, because to me, disturbing a sleeping baby only to put her in a crib for 30 minutes after settling her again, to feed her and then have to restart the process is ridiculous when she’s asleep already.

I feel like I do everything. I feed and settle her every time. When he can’t calm her down within 10 minutes he passes her back despite me having her all day and him not seeing her.

I love my daughter more than anything, and my husband is lovely, I swear. It’s just a really tough time with her sleep, and I’m struggling to cope. I’m so, so tired. And he doesn’t seem to realise this, because he is. We have talked about this so many times, but it just turns into an argument. Please tell me this will pass?

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