For the last 2 nights my baby has cried ALL night. I've literally not been able to put her down for more than 5 minutes without her screaming. I've tried feeding her, changing, rocking, burping but nothing seems to work. She settles once I pick her up but she cries again as soon as I put her down and obviously I can't sleep holding her. I really don't know what to do. I'm getting extremely frustrated with my husband as it's like he just doesn't hear her and wake up. When I wake him up to ask for help he just holds her and falls asleep immediately so I end up taking her off him and then the cycle starts all over again. What do I do? How do people sleep when baby won't be put down? In case it's important my baby girl is also premature so would be 37 weeks now
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My baby is 3 days old and I’ve experienced the same last night 🤯🤯🤯🤯 not sure what the solution is

My first born was the same she would sleep anywhere with no problems during the day, but would not leave my arms at night in the end I had to have her in bed with me (she was prem to) have you tried swaddling?

No magic solution here but please understand this is completely normal. It feels like hell at the time though so I feel for you :(. My two were the same in the early days. I don't think I did get any sleep in early days unless someone watched them im day which if you have support you definitely make use off. Our two did have reflux aswell so it is worth considering if baby needs held up a bit after feeds before lying down incase x

This is called the 4th trimester, you are that’s babies safe space, their home, their security.. their whole world!! Have you considered safe cosleeping? This can make this period ALOT less draining on you but understandable if not for you. You could try swaddling the baby? It makes them feel like they are back in the womb, white noises?xx

Have you tried safe cosleeping? I did it with my first for a couple of weeks and it helped us both because I had had a C-section so also fed lying down. The lullaby trust has tips for safe cosleeping xx

what does safe co sleeping entail? I got a portable bassinet for in the bed hoping that will be enough, but I’m unsure of how this all works.

If you breast feed, you can try putting some of your milk on baby’s swaddle/blanket, or whatever she sleeps with so that she can smell your scent and to help her feel comforted when she isn’t in your arms. Also apparently babies equate the sensation of being laid down to falling and it startles them - so it’s best to keep your body pressed against theirs and bend down to lie them down instead to reduce the likelihood of them waking up. I hope you find a solution and get some rest soon mama. 💛💛

So making sure your covers and your pillow are well out of the way of the baby. I also slept with my arm outstretched on the side of the baby which would stop myself rolling. You also have to be careful of your partner too.
http://https//www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/

i have no advice except that if your husband did help you you would be getting some rest ? Why exactly is he not helping? I mean it’s not really a good excuse to simply fall asleep? We all want to sleep but we dont because we have parentsl responsibilities.

My only suggestions:
Is she feeling hot or cold? I suspect cold so she may need an extra layer (either more blanket, thicker sleeping bag or a cover over the mattress cover).
Is there a draft?
Milk intolerance?
I would call a midwife/health visitor, especially if it goes on more than 4 days.
Hope you stay sane in the meantime.