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I am a mum of 2 under 2 and I am really struggling with my anxiety I’ve always had it but it so much worse since being a stay at home mum and I am currently looking into nursery’s for my nearly 2 year old and just speaking to people on the phone is so hard like I stutter my words and I have my first show around for her on Thursday and I so anxious I kinda want to speak to my doctors but worried I will get judged as I have 2 little ones I am more then able to look after them just think I need some help to take the edge of my anxiety but worried about speaking to the doctors as I have kids and I don’t want them to think I am not cable of looking after them as I am also I want the show around to go well for my little one don’t want mess it up for her become of my anxiety 😕

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I don’t think they will think you can’t look after your kids cz you’re anxious so please don’t worry about that and feel free to them that’s a worry for you and it might help them understand. I think it’s totally normal for you to feel anxious especially as a stay at home mum who maybe isn’t talking to adults as often as others. I downloaded an app called balance which has a free trial and gets good reviews it’s a meditation app for beginners with plans to help you with anxiety. I hope you’re ok, nursery will be fine and you’re entitled to ask them any questions you want to xx

thankyou I am just starting to get so upset now as I feel like affecting so much I cry at least once a day when my baby’s are down for a nap xx

Sounds like you need a break and a bit of you time! I know that can be difficult but you know you’re doing a great job and very soon they will be their own little people and you’ll have loads of time to yourself to just be you but I think talking to a dr is a good idea, they can give advice on what support is out there for you ❤️❤️

I’m exactly the same!! SAHM with 2 under 2 and it’s like I’ve completely forgotten how to socialise with other adults. I avoid going out to places where I know I’ll have to speak to anyone. I went to a wedding a few weeks ago and I’d forgotten how to act normal in a social situation because I’m so used to just talking to babies all day 🤦🏼‍♀️. I’m okay going to a baby group because I know other mums might feel the same, but speaking to people my age has become so difficult for me

Have you tried some form of talking therapy? Your gp should be able to refer you for that.
Or look into a life coach that has experience with anxiety.
Also look into CBD oil x

no I haven’t I worried about speaking to my GP as I had my second baby only 5 month ago and I don’t want to think iam not coping x

You can do a self referral I believe.
I’ve added the link.
Also a link for CBD that is a trusted seller.
It’s not necessarily cheap but I would personally always try natural remedies before looking at medications.

https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/mental-health/find-an-nhs-talking-therapies-service

https://www.tribesupplements.co.uk/product-page/cbd-500mg

thankyou !

Please don’t worry about speaking to your GP about how you’re feeling! There are specialist services that can help you and GPs can help to access these. There is no judgement on parenting or you as an individual, just as if anyone would seek help for any physical ailments.

Depending on your area, there may be a free talking therapy service, such as VitaMinds.

Asking for support can be the hardest step, but it can get easier.

Awaw thankyou ! I have since spoken to my GP and feeling much better abput it and relived as well xx

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I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

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My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

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8 week old in sleeping bag for first time as big enough! Do you feed your child in the night whilst in the sleeping bag or taken them out, feed then transfer back to sleeping bag before putting down?

i just want someone to talk to😔😔😔😔

when things get hard i have nothing not any support from my partner im convinced he doesn’t even love me anymore but thats another story
I have a 3 yo and a 2yo that are in bed sleeping only just now. I have a 1 yo that’s been sleeping from 8 o’clock to 10 o’clock. I just gave her her milk and she would’ve gone back to sleep if it wasn’t that
I lost her dummy earlier in the day when I went out
so now she won’t go back to sleep and she won’t accept any of the other dummy’s i have!😔😔and it’s 10 o’clock and I’m gonna be up until 3 o’clock with her and when she does want to go to sleep i won’t have any dummy to give her she will accept and she won’t sleep without it i just wanna cry 😔i have nobody to talk to and i feel so alone i get no support from anybody i’m so tired and i don’t feel well to top it off😔

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