Advice please 💔🥺

I’m currently 33 weeks pregnant and struggling with the breakup of me and my baby’s father, I’ve had zero closure, the reason we broke up was silly, and he basically took the first opportunity to run, however we was together 7 years 💔.. he’s already moved on.. “take that as you will because I’ll never get the truth but deep down I know” and yesterday he sent me an awful text basically saying he’s wanting nothing to do with me.. but he “demands to know when the baby is born” this is the first contact we’ve had and as expected he didn’t reply to my response.. hasn’t shown up to scans or appointments.. or nothing and didn’t really do that when we was together at the beginning 😥.. I’m just struggling to let go.. I don’t know if it’s because we’ve not had that conversation on where things went wrong.. or if it’s just because of his actions as to why I’m finding it hard work I’m just not sure.. he’s cheated on me in the past and I forgive him that for that like an idiot most will say.. all my friends disappeared because they didn’t really like him and now I’m just totally on my own tbh.. I left him my house and all my stuff in it.. just so I could move back in with family and get some sort of support.. and he’s just using that one beautiful family home I made into some sort of sex den 💔.. I have to see him daily and he avoids all contact.. it isn’t really a loss him leaving like he has but this situation i just never dreamed I’d ever be in alone and pregnant 💔💔 sorry for the long post 🥺🥺

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Sorry mam, you don't deserve such treat at this moment but men are evil. You couldn't have move out your house,you could stay and throw him away if you have family around. For this time don't put yourself alot of stress just concentrate on your pregnancy and assume he is no longer in your life. Trust me he will regret one day.

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Is he that fat ugly guy on your profile? He was punching 💯 Your going to find someone so much better, men that relationships jump are trash

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the original plan was for him to leave, but he just took the mick about going, and just kept staying and staying and never coming back for days on end.. and it was just breaking my heart more and more being in the same house as him so I took it upon myself to move into my family home 💔.. I just never thought in a million years he would move his new side chick in before my personal stuff was even packed 😥💔.. I guess it only shows his intentions and my instincts was right 💔

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this made me laugh Thankyou 🤣🙈 and yes that fat ugly guy is him haha! I didn’t even realise he was still on there if I’m honest ☹️😥.. xxx

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It’s okay for you to feel like this, you were cheated on and treated horrendously at the time when yoh should be happiest. Your family home is gone. It’s going to take time.

Try not to let him walk all over you. Why do you need to see him everyday?

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I see him everyday because the home we had together is round the corner from where I am at my grandparents house 💔.. and the only way he can leave the street is by passing by 🥺.. xx

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I wouldn’t want my house back after what he’s done if I’m honest, he’s just spoiled all my memories in there and he would never let me get my furniture out now.. he’s never coming back in that’s for sure, all I ever wanted was for him to have a relationship with his daughter and to be there for her.. but if he won’t even communicate regarding her how is that even going to work he’s just showing his true colours.. 💜💜💜

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I haven’t even thought about it tbh, my grandparents have been amazing they have had builders round turning the house back into a 3 bedroom house so she’s going to have her own room and I can have mine, I’m very lucky to have the family I do because without them I’d be lost I really would be 💔💔 xxx I just can’t wait for her to be here now so I can put all my focus into her it’s him that’s going to miss out at the end of the day isn’t it now me xxx

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@Chelsea-lou Sorry about that. Men are evil 😈 you don't deserve what you're going through at the moment.

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Okay first bit of advice, stop apologizing! You've got nothing to be sorry for! I'm so sorry that you're going through this while so heavily pregnant 😔 It is such a vulnerable and emotional time and I wish I could give you a hug 🫂 He's done you a favor by leaving. You don't want that kind of toxicity around you and your baby! You don't have to tell him when the baby's born! You do that when YOU'RE ready! He doesn't get to make demands and then just fkn disappear! If I was you, I would sort out the situation with the house asap because if it's your house then it's yours! You need to take it back sooner rather than later, because if it goes to court it will be harder the longer he's there. I know that's easier said than done, especially where you must be emotionally, but now is the time to find your inner strength, not just for you, but for your baby 🍼 because they are going to need you more than ever now ❤️ focus on your baby, and fuck him! He's a loser... The closure will come, with time...

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