When is last nap before bedtime

I’ve seen a lot of posts saying you put babies down at 9/10pm for bed and they wake at whatever time in the morning, im slowly trying to start an evening routine but his day naps are still all over the place which means “bedtime” is different every night! When you put your babies to bed at 9/10, when is their last nap of the day and then are you keeping them/making them stay awake until their bedtime? Xx

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Following as I’m pretty much the same. We have just turned 12 weeks, currently on holiday but when we get back I think I need to be a bit more disciplined! 😂

it’s so difficult isn’t it!! I have all intentions of being in a routine but my little one has other ideas and just naps literally ANY time of the day sometimes 15 minutes sometimes 2 hours, something at 2pm and sometimes at 5pm for 2 hours! Then I’m confused what to do with bed time at that point 😂 x

Totally! We are an expert 30 minute napper, but I’m lucky if I get 2 a day and they could be anytime. The other day he fell asleep at like 6.30/7 and I knew it was a bad idea, but let him sleep. Was very difficult getting him back to sleep later that night 🤣🤣 so I am trying to avoid naps at between 6-8 if I can but like you say, often the baby has other ideas 🫣

I pop my baby to bed earlier than this but Iv found to try gain some form of routine the best thing to do it wake baby at the same time every morning so that the day always starts off the same meaning wake windows etc should be fairly similar and keep a night time routine consistent so if baby does fall asleep wake with enough time to build some sleep pressure before bed etc so for example my baby goes to bed for 7 every night so his last nap ends at 5:15 latest xx

I take my little girl up to bed between 10-10:30, she has a feed and then will sleep through until 8:30/9:30, depending on what our plans are for the day! Throughout the day I don’t give her a set time for naps, she has 4 bottles a day which are typically 10,2,6,10 and her wake windows are often up to 2 hours (been a bit shorter recently as she’s had a cold and jabs) but her last nap can be any time, if I can have her awake for an hour or so before bed I like to but also if we don’t I don’t stress, for example tonight she slept from 8:45-10, woke up to change her nappy and have her bottle and shes back sleeping again! I have to keep her upright for half hour after a feed due to bad reflux but once I move her into her crib she should sleep all through the night 🥰

Really recommend the Napper app which we’ve been using for about 4 weeks now… it recalculates estimated times your baby will get tired depending on night wakings, morning wake up time and when and how long they nap during the day. For us it is scarily accurate! One thing I only realised a week in though is you’re not supposed to wait until the exact time to put your baby down / give them the right environment to sleep - winding down at least 15 but ideally 30 mins before is most effective for making sure you don’t swing into overtiredness… on average our 14 week old is falling asleep for the night at 8.30 and waking at about 7… night waking has been a bit all over the place since we started but usually get at 5.5- more recently 7ish hour stretch to the first waking, then maybe another brief feed/nappy change around 5am before waking up properly at 7.

My 4 month olds bedtime is somewhere between 8/9pm iv tried earlier and he just wont settle! His last nap normally ends around 6pm sometimes half 6 and we just have loads of play time a bath a feed etc but i wouldn’t let him nap after 6.30pm!x

fingers crossed we’ll slowly get there!❤️🤞🏻

great idea thank you!! Xx

that’s amazing!! Definitely made me feel better about not having a set routine thank you and I hope the reflux gets better for you I know how difficult it is❤️

so I’ve literally just got huckleberry plus which does similar as people swear by it!! Also so weird you say about the time before the nap as we have started this the last couple of days and my god what a difference!! For so long we completely missed the fact he could’ve been sleeping as he didn’t seem tired but was! Thank you xxx

Amazing that you’re seeing a difference! Really hope it keeps working for you. It’s so hard to tell sleep cues from other things most the time and there’s no way I have the headspace to remember nap times and lengths/recalculate next nap times myself at the moment!

ahhh amazing thank you think I’ll start aiming for this xxx

perfect I think this is the routine we will try xx

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