In Need of Advice/Support

Even before my daughter was born last August, I have been fighting a lot with my husband. He has also said a lot of hurtful things to me, tries to invalidate my feelings, and tells me my opinions are wrong especially when it comes to how we are or are going to parent my daughter.

I've gotten to a point where I don't see him the same way I did before and I am literally so unhappy all the time. Does anyone have advice if you have gone through a divorce?

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Have you tried couples counseling yet? It may be worth a shot but I know sometimes the other partner won't agree if they don't see an issue which can be tough. If he agrees definitely give it a try but know that it doesn't always work and you may still end up separating. Having kids definitely puts a strain on relationships if they aren't super sturdy to begin with.

Part of the issue is he sees he does nothing wrong. We had a fight earlier this year and he said I was a bad wife because I wasn't showing him any affection and I didn't care about him. Which I was struggling with juggling working, being a mom and taking care of everyone else but me. I asked if he would be open to marriage counseling and he flat out denied it; he is completely against getting professional help, even for mental health.

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