I don’t know what to do

I just had my baby boy in July he truly changed my life 🩵 but the father on the other hand doesn’t wanna change he wants to continue drinking. I gave up everything I left my life in Florida to move here and start a family with him yet he wants to keep coming home drunk and not be there for me when I need him. He wants to be a family on days it’s convenient for him. I don’t know if I should keep hanging on to see if he will change or if I should just go back home :/ I’m mentally drain and don’t have my support system (my mom and sisters) with me it’s just been hard

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Babe…go home. You and baby deserve better than a man who only wants to be a family when he chooses. Not like you get to choose what days you get to be mom. Drinking is a hard addiction to overcome and HE HAS TO WANT IT FOR HIM. Go to your support system. Lay it all out for him.

go back home 🫶🏼

Now that you have your baby it’s about what’s best for him. I think if he’s choosing drinking over both your baby and yourself then it’s time to move on. You deserve
better

I agree. Go home to your support system. If he doesn't change even after a baby he might never change.

I'm having issues with my bf too and the crazy thing is that it seemed to have gotten worse after the baby. I don't have a support system where I am currently also and it's so difficult so I understand your pain.. I wish you the best and I hope you will find the strength and courage to leave. I am still working on my courage to leave too.

Go home girl, support is extremely important. If he wanted to be supportive he already would have

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Separation Anxiety

My baby is nearly 6 months old and has just entered the separation anxiety stage… this evening I was trying to cook dinner whilst my husband was with the baby and he was just crying every time he couldn’t see me, with full blown hysterical sobbing, and as soon as he saw me again he started giggling and smiling. Any tips on how to stop this? And how long might this phase last?
My husband felt pretty disheartened and upset 😢