Afraid of being an incapable mom/mom guilt

We are expecting again and I’m so terrified of not being good enough. I already feel like my daughter deserves better attention/patience/fun activities… afraid of failing even more with another child.

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I’m sorry you feel that way love.. but sure you’re doing a great job & going to be great mom again and again and again.. I’m also expecting again and I’m nervous af myself because I already feel like a shitty person at times

Something I read the other day that I always try to remind myself is that if you are worried about being a good mom then you are already a good mom. Only the good moms are worrying about it so you’ve answered your own question/worries by worrying in the first place ❤️ we all have bad days or could always improve but your daughter loves you for being you.

Hey, I’ve got 2 kids, and I want to suggest something- you’re a great mom for worrying about it. And you will have less attention at times with 2. And you will lose yourself in how to manage 2 with completely different needs, and it also keeps on changing for the fun of it. But guess what? A. Everyone does. Doesn’t make a good/bad mom. Just teaches your kids there are other responsibilities and things in the world that matter too. And that is actually good for them! And b. They actually develop the same with out the complete focus on them😏 it is important, and you will find times to focus on each of them separately, but the 100% you are giving to your kido right now? It’s not fully needed for developing them.. you’ll come to find out there are blessing in this too- my kid finally learned to play alone and she Loves it!

walking with you! Motherhood isn’t for the faint of heart. Lots of wrestling with selfishness… like the mamas say, if you’re worried about being a good mom, you’re a good mom. 🙏🙏🙏

I appreciate these words and will read them over again. 🤍

words to cling to! Thank you!! 🤍

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