I’m confused if I’m attracted to him

I was very attracted to my partner but after having my son 5ms ago I think Iv changed… but I don’t know if I am attracted to him or not. Our sex life before our son was brilliant everyday but now it’s like once every 2 weeks and I’m just not into it .. or affection has gone down also.. due to me… I cringe when he kisses me or even touches me… it’s like things I liked before has changed. Him kissing me now I think his beard stinks and I don’t even wanna kiss him anymore I even bought him a shaver to shave it down so it’s not annoying and beard oil it just little things like even when he would touch my body before I liked it but now I just stop him cuz it’s annoying me or I feel uncomfortable… but I don’t know if it’s cuz I don’t find him attractive anymore.. I love him and I have never wanted to leave him but honestly I don’t want sex! I would live the rest of my days without it… I don’t even do anything to myself… is it cuz Iv had a baby and my hormones have changed I don’t know… and he is really upset and down about it he told me “I feel like I have to pretend to my friend I have the perfect relationship but I feel you want nothing to do with me” and that made me cry cuz I don’t want him to feel that way

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It’s all from pregnancy as the body went through drastic changes mentally and physically causing you to emotionally be affected as well I know how you feel all women are different and are affected different because it’s however their hormones reacted and changed I’m the same way but it’s all about how you handle the situation as I wouldn’t say to straight up get a divorce because then those feelings come back and you’ve lost him already or something but rather talk it out and let him know how you feel, couple counseling could work even

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Talk to your ob/gyn. There are different things you can do and also medications/ supplements to help with these chemical changes in the body. It sucks but don’t do anything drastic until your hormones are more stable.

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