Bed time and wake up time

Just wondering what time everyone is putting their LO to bed in the evening and getting up in the mornings. My LO wants a feed at 6am but I feel like this is a bit early to be getting up… he quite happily goes straight back to sleep til 8 am. Should I be waking him at 6 or letting him sleep til 8? I put him down at 8 at night but then he feeds again 10:30pm and then obvious night feeds. I’m doing this solo and it’s quite hard… just want to have the right routine going forward

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Bedtime starts at 7ish. In bed by 7.45/8.15 and sleeps until 6/7am. He is 4 months xx

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Usually asleep by 8/8.30 if I give a late nap and awake by 7. Up 2-3 times during the night and co sleep from about 5 x

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I aim for bedtime to be between 9&10 and then wake up time tends to be between 8&10. It’s what works for us.

I have a toddler too and means I can get her to bed at 8ish without needing to divide my time between her and her brother for getting them to sleep. X

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@Sadie we used to do it this way but my baby is bed begging. Have to give her a late nap now to get her through to 8 do I can put her brother to bed at 7 🙈

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My little ones bed time is around 7, then she’s normally up by 6.30. Usually with 1 or 2 feeds through the night xx

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Okay thank you all… so should I get him out at 6 after feed or let him go back to sleep til 8? Lol I wish it was in the middle at 7 I wouldn’t mind that so much xx

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My boy usually does 12 hours waking once or twice in the night. He goes down about 7.45 and sleeps til 7.30/8am xx

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@Emily I would leave him until 8 at the moment... the clock change at the weekend will mean that will be 7! To be honest if mine slept in I'd leave them ... 😂

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Mine does the same, usually wakes at 6 with gas, has a feed and sleeps until 7/7.30 then we're up for the day

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Great thanks all 😊 he’s never been much of a sleeper especially in the day he only manages to have 20-30min naps so I thought perhaps he was getting up too late xx

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@Emily mine isn't much of a napper too but can be an early riser. I think if it's working for you getting up at that time enjoy the rest ❤️

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My LO goes to sleep about 8pm, sleeps until 8am, has a feed then goes back to sleep until 10am. We give her a little nap from 6-6:45 pm too as otherwise she gets grouchy lol x

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