What the actual F did I get myself into (read until the end)
Okay so this is a longggg story but I’ll try to shorten it. I’m pissed. I’m basically dealing with the “broke boyfriend” and the mf just won’t give.
A year ago he moved in with me with his son. Everything was great. He was a gentleman blah blah. My first red flag should have been this mf didn’t come with nothing but 2 baskets of clothes. #2 should’ve been that he was BROKE because he supposedly paid off his oldest daughters debt as a gift for her having a baby. OK BUT WHY SPEND EVERY DOLLAR TO YOUR NAME, anyway let me not. So I took care of all the bills for 2-3 months before he started helping and MIND you I had to make him send me money for half the bills. Like I would always say hey this is due. Etc etc. and he wouldn’t send it. Pretty soon I got fed up and said if you living here you paying half the bills and he started paying after that. Months go by its good, then we decide to move into a bigger house because we needed to accommodate our blended family now. Now he’s ALWAYS BROKE. Like how do we both make the same amount of money (I see his check) but I can take care of myself and then some but you never can. I swear he’s always needing gas, money for school lunch, money for food, money to pay this bill until he gets paid. Never has money for shit. I bought his kids school clothes cause he didn’t get paid yet, he promised to pay me back and buy my son school clothes because he didn’t start for another month. Never fucking got paid back, maybe $200 (I spent almost 2k) and he never bought my son clothes. Again, broke after bills an couldnt. I bought my son the damn clothes and said whatever but at this point I’m fed up. Not only this but in the meantime his kid is a really good kid but it’s sneaky. And I can’t stand it. I may be an asshole but so what. I buy all the groceries. I buy the kids 2 of everything. So they both have the same exact amount and kind of snacks because his son eats a lot, he’s a pre teen. His kid will gorge through his snacks even though I tell him he needs to eat food not snack and graze all day, snacks don’t fill him up. I offer to Make him food all the time. He will then start eating my sons snacks even though he has his own (we separate cause my sons school doesn’t provide lunches it’s a daycare) we have told him time after time about this and he will continue to do it at night when we’re asleep or in the morning before he leaves for school. This is frustrating because I can’t afford to buy hundreds of dollars worth of snacks because that’s all this kid will do. His dad repeats everything I say but he don’t listen. He don’t pitch in on groceries AT ALL EITHER. Cause he never can. This kid don’t listen to me at all, he’s constantly stealing my sons stuff and I tell him to ask me before he just takes his stuff and no matter how many times this kid just does not listen to a word either of us say. I did not sign up for this. Not to mention the relationship is toxic and I’m just fed uppppp so fed up. I told him he gotta go. And he did, BUT HE LEFT HIS SON HERE.
Like this man got a whole apartment and everything but refuses to take his son cause he doesn’t want to move him in the middle of the year. He says he will take him with him in December. WHAT!
I said absolutely not..no way. I literally can’t afford another child on my own. He claims he’ll pay this or that but WE KNOW HOW THAT GO.
Now I’m just sitting here like what the fuck.
YES LESSON LEARNED. I will never let another man move in with me and disrupt my peace, my savings account, my credit 😑
But Jesus Christ..I feel bad. Like I can’t just go drop his kid off but I seriously did not sign up for this shit.
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Seems like you fell for the classic homeless nigga trick its okay it happens to a lot of woman. Dont ignore thoze red flags next time and tbh drop his kid off wherever he stays or to his mamas or whoever! That is not your problem. Good luck!
He used your money for important thinhs and saved up all his! Thats how they do, drop his kid off he can take him he just don’t want the responsibility that comes with it just like every other responsibility he got. Drop him off
moral of the story you got scammed he’s a scam artist
I DID GIRL. I didn’t know guys like this really existed. Like wtf 🤣 I’m going to give him until December because that is Christmas break and his son doesn’t want to leave just yet either. But I sweatagawd, if he don’t come get him by Christmas break I will have to unfortunately pack him up and take him to his dad. I ain’t about to be caught with no kidnapping charges when his momma finds out…
I’m just ready for it all to be over and his son to go with him. I’m sorry to say but he has disrupted my peace, my finances, my credit…like this has traumatized me so bad I never want to let another man move in with me. Like we can date but you stay at your house type of thing. Ofcourse I just want to be alone and single forever at this point but in the future when I do date again….you can’t come here homie. Cause I worked way too hard for my house, my bag and my credit for anyone to fuck that up.
He’ll probably try and get back in with you before the December is up.
You are a better woman than me by keeping his kid- I’d have given him a weekend to get things sorted and then dropped him off Monday morning.
In terms of the snacks- either accept it’s the way it’s going to go until December, or try keeping your sons snacks in a lockable place or hidden as the kid obviously doesn’t have any impulse control yet. Good luck!
The damn audacity is at an all time high ! Who leaves their son like that then TELLS you when he's coming to get him?? Oh no ma'am. At this point let's just say he's been using you.
Yes you can just go and droo bis child off. You are not his guardian. Pack his sons stuff and drop him to his dad. It is not your responsibility to provide for his child especially when his child clearly has no respect.
It’s okay God is gonna bless you and karma is gonna bite him in the ass because you dont do kind people like that that helps you! That’s the worst possible thing you can do to somebody that took care of you and fed and housed you. Karma gonna get him! Where is his mom? She’s just okay with her son being far away like this shes not involved? Dont let him ruin dating for you there is way better men out there who would never do no shit like that to you. Remember you not a charity you dont need to be everything for a nigga! A grown man should come with his own as well!
is the mother in his life? because i can’t imagine my kid’s father dropping him off with some lady he don’t even live with & i’m just okay with it. like tf do you mean?? but you’re definitely better than a lot of people out here because i would’ve been dropped that baby off. it’s not his fault & it sucks that he’s likely to end up just like his deadbeat dad, but you have a responsibility to your kid first. i’m sure a big part of the reason he doesn’t wanna leave yet is because he knows dad isn’t buying him snacks the way you are & nothing at all to do with school. dad was making it work before you, so he can damn sure make it work after.
To answe a lot of y’all’s questions his mom is in his life but every other weekend type thing. Dads got him custody wise. I am listening to all of your replies I just can’t reply to all of them! Yes this man is delusional and I’m tired of being nice. His draining ass..I’m not a free babysitter.
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