Partner and bedroom issues
Me and my partner have been together almost 8 years and since having our first baby, my sex drive has gone massively down hill and we admittedly don't have sec that often because I'm just not interested. I'm now 9 months pregnant with our second and have just found out he's been paying for online sex webcams and I've just completely lost it.
I havent told him I found out because I admittedly was looking through his phone as I have some trust issues purely down to anxiety...
Any advice? I dont know how to feel or even approach him with it..it just makes me feel rubbish on top of pregnancy hormones.
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You need to talk about it because that's just not acceptable. And if you don't talk about it , it'll eat you alive and make you resent him.
Also, you need to admit to looking through his phone. Yes there may be some backlash but...own it. You felt shitty, so you looked, and found he'd been doing something even shittier 🤷🏻♀️
You don't really want an argument when you're about to pop, so try to be understanding and see his point of view. He's not getting it from you so he's somehow decided this is an acceptable alternative 🤔 needs a discussion.
If it can't be done pleasantly perhaps let it be for now and discuss it after baby arrives.
Yeah you need to talk about it, otherwise your anxiety will just come out in other ways sabotaging your relationship.
My personal view is that porn is okay, but I think paying for sex cams is a bit much because of the personal interaction. I wouldn't be happy with that at all. You need to set down your boundaries on what you are happy with him looking at.
Going through his phone screams that you don't trust him though, so you may want to think about why and sort that out as well.
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