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Sex after birth.

Before I fell pregnant I had no issues with pain during Sex. Sex was comfortable and pleasurable. Once I was pregnant I felt as if sex was so painful and I just thought I may have had thrush.
Went to A&E when I was 18 weeks pregnant for something unrelated and mentioned to the doctor about painful sex and if it could be to do with something like thrush and he just said it’s due to being pregnant and nothing else.
Anyways, I did a treatment for thrush and attempted to be intimate with my partner again but it was still painful. Close to the end of my pregnancy, I had a sweep and cervix checks and that was extremely painful/uncomfortable and needed numbing gel and gas and air for every check, before pregnancy it never was like this. I’m coming up to 6 weeks pp and me and my partner are looking forward to being intimate again but I’m terrified it’s still going to hurt and I will never be able to have pleasurable sex again. Has this been an issue with anyone else? Did it resolve itself? I had a vaginal birth so I’m not sure if it will hurt anyways because of that..?

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I found sex during pregnancy very uncomfortable it felt like my pelvis was just bruised and I literally couldn’t take it 🤣

I had an episiotomy and forceps delivery, I was nervous about sex again but i can say very happily I had zero pain or discomfort at 7 weeks pp. I’m 5 months pp now and we have sex basically twice a week and it’s jsut gone back to how it was before we fell pregnant!

I will say that it feeling sore after giving birth is normal the first few times you try. Just use plenty of lube, go slow and do not skip foreplay! Talk to your partner and try positions that don’t ‘stretch’ you out too much. Sorry to be graphic but you can work up to those 🙈

Slow and steady to start with!

Pelvic floor therapy will help you immensely ☺️ find a reputable one in your area!

Are you using a lubricant? Water based is best

I have always found sex during pregnancy really uncomfortable. I had an episiotomy so it was uncomfortable for months after birth too. Eventually it was painless and enjoyable. Preg again and it's uncomfortable again lol!

I also used to have a problem with sex and then once I got pregnant it was pretty painful and not as pleasurable. We just had sex for the first time since the baby last week and I had a little bit of pain where my tear was but with a little change in position(moving hip up or down to get comfortable) it was great again!

Same here. When sex painful during pregnancy, when I was about to give birth and the nurses were checking my cervix I was in soo much pain, my husband has to pretty much help me stay still because I was tossing and turning while I was getting checked. After giving birth sex was still painful. I and currently 5 months PP and things are getting back to normal. I had a C section by the way. Not sure if it makes a difference.

Sex during pregnancy was painful for me too. After my first baby it took me about 6 months to get back to where I felt like I did before pregnancy. Then I got pregnant again and the process has started all over🙃

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