Has anyone even helped from pp!?

I still feel emotionally and physically drained, I miss my old body I miss the old me. All I hear is get rid of the pregnancy fat soon, fix ur weight, don’t be too emotional, don’t be too chill, why you don’t trust baby with us, why is baby crying, why you think you know what baby needs you’re a FTM listen to us instead. I just don’t wanna be here to listen to all this. Half of it isn’t even to emotionally harm me or make me more upset but I feel upset because my mind is at war 24/7. I can’t take care of my self as much I don’t even remember the last time I brushed my teeth but I’m focused on my little bundle of joy 24/7. I don’t even sleep properly because I check her heartbeat and breathing. There’s much more and no my man isn’t here because we’re currently in a LDR. ( long distance relationship) I can’t make him feel worried about me like yeah I have the support but I feel not enough. I don’t know how to explain it but I don’t cry about it I just cope with it everyday. I just want myself back but it’s gonna be hard.

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I’m really sorry to hear this 💕💕 is there any support you can get from friends and family while your partner is away? Just a bit of “me time” or undisturbed sleep (knowing someone else is watching her sleep) may make you feel mentally and emotionally so much better! You’re doing great mama, it’s a huge life change so just be gentle and kind with yourself!

Your body WILL heal and you will lose the pregnancy body. You're going to be emotional. You just had a baby. You are the mom and you know best. Babies cry. You'll be at war with your mind for a little bit but it's normal. Baby will be okay long enough for you to burst your teeth. Or make a quick lunch. If baby cries, check diaper and offer a bottle and the you can eat your lunch or brush your teeth or your hair. Put baby near the bathroom door so you can shower and listen out for baby. If baby cries you can step out real quick and offer a bottle or try to finish your shower. Babies only know how to cry. They are fine as long as they are safe, changed, and fed. The cry cuz they need a diaper change, they are hungry, they are gassy, they are uncomfortable. I am a second time mom as of 10 days ago. When I was an FTM I felt scared to sleep too. I was extremely afraid of sids. My parents had to get a foot monitor to put on my baby so I could have peace of mind. I totally understand. ❤️

It's okay to ask someone to watch the baby so you can shower or eat. Baby should be fine. Relax, momma. It's difficult. I wish the dad was there to help you out though.

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